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writes:I recently upset a girl that I love a lot (she knows it) by saying her current boyfriend is using her. I said that to her because I care about her and put her at the top priority. I heard about that by coincidence, so I have no evidence to prove it.As a result,She ignored me for two weeks and today she finally forgive me and said wants to be friends with me agian.Somehow I just don't know how to face to her.However, about last weekend I saw her boyfriend was with another girl in town by coincidence. I seriously don't know shall I tell her about this. I don't want to be ignored again but I also don't want her to get hurt.Shall I tell her about that or just sit on the side and watch? Reply to this Question
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (6 February 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your valuable advise.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 DO NOT TELL HER THIS! You "saw him with another girl" but don't know for a fact what's happening, and more importantly cannot prove it. Maybe he's just friends with this girl, or she's a cousin, or maybe he IS cheating but will deny it. All I can promise is that you'll look like the bad guy... ESPECIALLY after already telling her that she's being used and given that she ALREADY knows you like her... now you want to accuse him of cheating on her? Even if you're right, no one would believe it coming from you. You've got too much invested in this.
Just be her friend, be there for her, and if he IS cheating, it will come out eventually. If you can't keep quiet, talk to a mutual friend and let this friend handle investigating the matter.
And while I hate to say this... don't get your hopes up too high right now that she'll fall in love with you. You're in the friend zone at the moment, and she's mad at you anyway. Even if he's cheating, and she finds out, she may never love you. She might, but she might not. Don't get too worked up about winning her over, or you'll just push her away / smother her.
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