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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello there, I hope there is someone who can make sense of my situation.Basically me and my best mate have been close for 7 years. He went to university 3 years ago and at the start he hated it. I was there for him all the way; I was his support for the 1st and 2nd years of his degree, I stood by him while he tried to make new friends. I constantly let him know I was there for him, from the 1 am calls to the many trips up to his university (which he has never done for me). Then suddenly he began to change. I was really happy that he had carved out a life for himself, but I did not realise that are friendship would suffer.Now he has ‘found’ himself he does not even talk to me anymore. I have my own life and uni friends but I always make time for him, but it seems he has moved on. He has seemed to have replaced me with his housemates and the 3 girls who he has some relations with. 1 being the ‘mothering’ type the other girl is a drip and the 3rd is a manipulator who has led him on for 2 years even though she has a boyfriend. I kept telling him he’s going to get hurt but he does not care about what i say.I text him 2 months ago and he has only just replied! We can go months without speaking which annoys and hurts me. When he comes home to see his family that’s when he calls me, because he has no mates back home but when he goes back i won’t hear a word from him. A few weeks ago I feel on bad times and I really needed someone to talk to, so I text him saying I wanted to talk, but it has been 2 weeks and I have not heard a word, but when he was crying down the phone wanting to quit his degree I was there. I am writing an email telling him all of this, but the only thing that is stopping me from sending it is, I know it will break whatever is left of his friendship because he is not the type to cave in to emotion. I just don’t know how to handle this situation.Any advice would be great, Thanks for reading
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