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writes:hello please help me out here i was carrying with a girl from last 2 years we both used to love each other suddenly i left her after one year i got in touch with her and now i love her and she to loves me but when i asked her how did she passed one year with out me she told me she loved a boy and was happy with him but he to left her so now what shall i do please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, dost +, writes (25 November 2010):
dost is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthx to all........hope ill be happy with her
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reader, Bella555  +, writes (24 November 2010):
If you truly want to be with her, and she's expressed a willingness to get back together also, then you must accept she was involved with someone else while you were broken up. Don't question her excessively about her other relationship, and be sure to treat your new beginnings as separate from whatever you'd had previously. Do you love and care for her? Are you able to deal with the fact she moved on with her life while you were not in it? I hope so, and I hope you can build a beautiful life together.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Why did you stop seeing her? And why are you upset if she saw another boy? You left her, she was free to see other people. Why should she give up her life and her happiness on the off-chance that you might decide to try to get back together with her?
'Suddenly I left her' sounds like you just dropped her, and you don't explain why. It would help to know why you stopped seeing her in the first place. Something else to explain is whether or not you have been seeing anyone else in the year you were apart.
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reader, Abella +, writes (24 November 2010):
 you left her suddenly after one year? It was not the other way around. She never rejected you. You rejected her. That must have hurt her, for doing that.What was she supposed to do then? Pine for you for the rest of her life and never see anyone else ever again?. Once you left her she had to assume you did not want to see her again. So she was free to see someone else. Now that suitor has left her she is free again to choose another. You have come back intoher life.You are very fortunate that she is willing to accept you back. If you reject her a second time she is less likely to forgive you a second time. So this time treat her kindly and respectfully.She has already shown she loves you by forgiving you for rejecting her the first time, and accepting you back. If you truly love her then there should be no problem if you continue to care, honor and respect her and treat her well. Because of your culture i do hope that she and your mother also get on with each othere very well. As that will make it better for everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Continue your relationship with her. This time around love her enough to stay and not leave. This girl has been through enough already the best thing you could give her is you unconditional love.
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