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*earbear
writes:I actually have no idea what to do.. I fancy this boy who i think, loves his ex?! im in a bit of a mess.Theres this guy called craig who recently broke up with one of my friends, well she dumped him. I fancied him before he went out with my mate even though i knew he didnt fancy me back because he used to tell me his feelings online about my friend which was fine to start off and i'd be like 'aww thats sweet' but then used to tell me every single thing and i just got annoyed and very jealous. I didnt tell him that though as i was the only one he told, so i guess i was seen as a bit more than any friend, a friend he trusted and confided in. He did want to know who i had a bit of a crush on and i kind of hinted it was him, but then totally denied it all cos i was scared of looking like an idiot. Now we still talk, i try to avoid talking about his ex as he thinks she's a b**** and argues with her quite a bit about her dumping him, he said he doesn't want to go out with her again though. I gathered he's not over her but i can't help but fancy him, i think its the way he speaks to me, he's sweet, kind and likes to have a bit of a laugh aswell as being muscular and manly due to tons of swimming. I told him im not going to speak to him anymore cos his ex kept having a go at me for telling him stuff that she'd said about him and he said okay, but later on said ignore *, im not hers anymore n i can do what i like. please talk to me.. (so i carried on speaking to him, is this bad?) We have a bit of a banter and everytime he texts me or emails me he always puts bye xxx which must mean he likes me, infact he did.. he said he likes to tell me things because im his friend..and i havent even known him very long.Shall i admit my feelings for him and hope something sparks or completely wash him out of my hair? I feel rather stupid for even thinking about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): If you like him, why would you wash him out of your hair when you don't even know how he feels about you?! He might like you the same way back and be too afraid to say, so then you'd be missing out!If you like him and want to be more than friends then what have you got to lose by telling him you like him? I think you should go for it and tell him straight!All good, strong relationships have friendship as the basis, and at least if you're good friends now then you know a good relationship could work. And it's a bonus to know how much he trusts you too.And if you do decide to tell him and he doesn't feel the same way back, THEN it's time to wash him out of your hair! But don't give up on him before you've tried.
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