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writes:Help, I know I post on here a lot, but it's kind of theraputic. I just completely don't feel myself, I feel like a weak person, after ending a five year relationship, five months later I'm a mess. I was fine when I did it, but I genuinely feel like I'm having some sort of breakdown. I can't concentrate on my work and I've lost interest in everything. My family are amazing, but I'm falling apart. I know I don't want my ex back, but I want that happiness again, but I can't find anyone good enough, and not sure I'm ready too. I'm at my lowest and can't imagine being happy again. I'm on medication for anxiety and want myself back :(
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reader, cloudysunshine +, writes (9 April 2009):
cloudysunshine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your reply, I just feel so down but I know I'm not the onyl one to feel like this. I don't think it helps that my ex has moved on quite quickly and I feel left behind, evn though the break up was my fault. Thanks again for your advice :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is a tough time for you at the moment and we all get these, but it will pass. 5 months isn't a very long time when you've just come out of a long term relationship.
You're still mourning the loss of the good times you've had and can't see at the moment, that you have better ones ahead of you. I think it might help if you started looking for positives, I've had some difficult times not so long ago, I didn't want to get out of bed and sometimes didn't, but I began to look for small personal positives.
I'd think about the friends I had, who are kind lovely people and think about what that says about the type of person I am etc. Things like that helped me gain a little bit of a realistic perspective on things and gave me the confidence to go forward.
Talk to your friends and get some of their perspectives, they're a far more accurate mirror of you as a person and how your life is progressing.
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