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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I'm so confused about things, let me explain: I am very much sexually and romantically attracted to boys, always have been, ever since I was 4 years old. But with that, I've also noticed that since I was close to puberty, I also got aroused by women (mostly boobs) but I never actually wanted to do anything with them. Never wanted to date one, never got aroused by one of my friends. But why do I get so attracted to boobs sometimes?? It's been happening for some time now and I'm so confused! What does this mean???
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2015): It doesn't have to mean anything. You can appreciate that a woman is far more prettier to look at than a males body but it doesn't have to mean something and there is no need to rack your brains for some label to apply to yourself.
You state you're attracted to guys and don't want to do anything with a woman. So just do that, you not gay or bisexual just because you found a woman's boobs attractive if you actually don't want a relationship or intimacy with a woman. Don't panic or be confused. Women can look at other women and see them as being beautiful, without wanting to be sexual with them. It comes easier the more comfortable you are with yourself. Just be yourself and don't panic or rush to label yourself.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (6 July 2015):
To be honest with you, it means very little. Attraction is complicated. You’ve already mentioned sexual attraction and romantic attraction, but there can also be aesthetic attraction. In other words, you simply appreciate something about some-one’s physical appearance. IT doesn’t mean you fancy them, or that you want to have a sexual encounter with them. Sexuality is complicated, but we also boil everything down to sexual attraction far too much. You are sexually and romantically attracted to men, so you are heterosexual. Might your appreciation of the female body grow in to a sexual attraction and desire to be with a woman? Possibly, but at the moment it’s just an appreciation. The fact is, men too look admiringly at other male bodies. They are perhaps less open about it, or perhaps see more clearly that it’s definitely not a sexual thing, but you wouldn’t say they’re not straight just because they do this. Don’t worry about it.
I wish you all the very best.
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