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writes:I have been in a relationship for a while, and we were not virgins when we got together. I had a 2 year borrowing sex life - only 2 positions, occational sex, she would cum in 5-10 min then be board while I finished - no real deep connection. My new girl gave a couple forced blow jobs she did not like, and a brief intercourse that she did not stop but wish she had - she was 18 and he said all the right things, but he really used her. Now we have sex often and I really love her - she says she loves me and had multiple orgasms, and has slowly over time become very open with me - positions and oral. Here is the problem - I can't cum inside her. I also feel like I have to be careful not to be too rough - and remind her of this previous guy - who as you can imagine, I hate. We do not live near this other guy - I just need to get him and what he did to her out of my head. Any way to help me move past this???
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Charlotte - I guess this is part of a fear of imtimacy that just needs to be worked thru - I will do as you suggest
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): Interesting....
So in summary the gf you are with you cant finish inside with because you think of her ex. Maybe you are with the wrong person of the two? (ok joking) think of the most explicit sexual thing you can instead,
Does it matter if you wear a condom? what about if you are outside of her and reach the point of no return and then she rides you for the um final gallop? get her to move her hips whilst you are shagging - no not like a hula girl in more of a riding rhythm, litteraly squeezing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): Hi,i'm glad u got everything sorted out.I think your best bet is to think you both love each other and nothing else matters.Think of wot this previous guy would want,to get a reaction,and thts wots happenin.Also,try talking to ur partner-explain how u feel.If you are to shy or worried about doing that.Ever thought of writing down all your emotions on a bit of paper.I had trouble with an ex who was a bit arrgressive,I found it really hard to get a connection with lads,got an a site and they advised me to write my emotions on a bit of paper,not as important as ur case.But i can't think of anything else that might help.
Hope this helps. Charlotte x
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