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writes:I 19 years old, and a daddys girl. My mom died when I was 6 years old and my dad became very over protective. He acts lile Im a child, He calls my cell a million times a day and if I dont answer is will just keep calling. HE literally gets my uncle to do crimnal record checks of every guy I date. If I say any thing to him he says I am ungratful for all he as done for me. But I feel Im missin out on so much becasue of im. How do I deal with an over protective father. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): Yeah. I have an overprotective father to. But the best way to get him to back off a little is to sit down and have a talk with him. If he disagreas with some things, don't whine or say something that will make him think your imiture. Have a very mature, very calm talk with him, calming explaining you are old enough to do a few things you want without him bugging you over it. Hope this helped, and good luck!!
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (19 March 2009):
 My dad is the opposite and I often wish he were a little moreprotective and involved with me and my life. Guess we always want what we don't have. I don't find anything wrong with criminal checks, in fact I used to do it for myself when I met someone interested in me before I got married. If you truly feel that you are missing out, "that talk" is necessary to have with him. Let him know that no one will ever take his place in your life and your heart, and you feel it is important to you that he trusts in the decisions you make in your life. Tell him that you feel you are old enough to start making more adult choices. Do you still live with him? Does he financially support you? Those things matter, because he won't begin treating you like an adult untill you prove that you are one. Be glad, though, that your dad loves you so much. I am 26, in prelabor (as I type) with a baby boy, and during the 9 months of my pregnancy, he hasnt called once to see how I was doing. Not that he dosnt approve, he has always been this way, and it saddens me that I can't count on him to be there for me, never have. Love your dad, you'll find that he is the one consistant thing in your life:)
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