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*ellygirl
writes:I'm a newly outed (to myself and everyone else!) lesbian, and I've been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now. We're very much in love and quite frisky and spend a lot of time in the bedroom, but things have begun to seem increasingly one-sided to me. Typically, I caress her all over, touch her and bring her to orgasm, go down on her, and just generally pleasure her in a lot of ways, but she doesn't caress my body, or touch me or go down on me to pleasure me at all.She DOES bring me to orgasm just from good old fashioned leg humping and yoni touching and a bit of strap-on action (LOL), but I'm feeling frustrated at the lack of foreplay, or the lack of foreplay directed at me anyhow. Our foreplay is pretty much me caressing her body, then she pounces on me. She wiggles the body part she wants caressed and makes a cute little noise, and I'll pet her and things go from there. Maybe she's formed some lazy bedroom habits because I do still have an orgasm without the caressing and touching, so she feels like it's not necessary, but I crave to be touched, and its just not being satisfied.Lately I've mentioned numerous times that I want to be caressed and touched too, but still, nothing ever happens. I've started caressing myself at the same time as I'm caressing her if only so I can also experience the sensation of hands on my body. It's really kind of depressing. I'm also pleasuring myself more because it seems like it's the only way I'm going to get any direct clitoral stimulation.I'm puzzled by this whole thing, and am starting to think she's a selfish lover, but I'm really hoping there's some other issue, or at least that there's some way for me to actually be on the receiving end of those lovely caresses and touches "down there" that I so freely give.Any suggestions? How can I get what I need and have a more satisfying sex life???
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reader, LittleLoverBear +, writes (26 May 2010):
 maybe next time your in bed together, dont make the first move, shell want to get things going if you dont or your could seductivly bring her hands to your body and show her that you really enjoy it
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reader, cnith +, writes (26 May 2010):
 I'll tell you this much.... sex is about two people. Not just one getting all the fun. If she refuses to touch you or please you, then you need to move on.
You could try the well I wont do you if you dont do me thing but I don't think that works.
Talk to her about it when you're not having sex. Be open and honest and tell her what you want. If she still wont then you need to find someone else. Someone who'll care for you as much as you care for them.
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