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writes:Some time ago I was watching T.V. and I couldn't find anything that interesting on. As I bypassed many channels, I contemplated whether or not I should just turn the darn thing off. Then I came across the Tyra Banks show. The episode was about individuals and couples that were into very freaky sex acts. The crazy thing was some of the guests were into things that didn't seem sexual at all. It was weird...but not sexual. A couple enjoyed tickling each other, a man loved for women to walk all over him (literally!), etc. Tyra then brought up a great question. She asked, "Do you share this information with a person that you get involved with?" Some said they chose to share...while others did not choose to do so. So that brings me to question...how open should you be in a relationship?In one of my relationship advice books, I touch briefly on the subject. But I'd like to hear others thoughts on this as well. Reply to this Article
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (23 November 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the question Good points. Thanks for your input Shadow Rose!
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (23 November 2011):
 I gotta add my input:
I personally think it depends on how serious the relationship is and how much you trust your partner.
It also depends on how you feel about the fantasy as well, if the fantasy is something you're ashamed of, you're less likely to be open.
*shrug* That's how I feel about it.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (15 November 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you anonymous reader for your comments. I'm sorry that you can't really trust any guy. And I really don't know your history of relationships. But what I will say, if I may, that there has to be a lot of trust and communication amongst many other things for a relationship to survive. But what you choose to discuss and open up about in regards to sexual fantasies is entirely up to you.
I wish you the very best in love, life, and achieving overall happiness!
Thanks again for posting your comment. :^)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): This sort of funny to me, because I like to live my life as a vary private person, I tell no one more then i have to , that way years from now they cant come back with what you have shared in private, but of course my longest relationship has been not more the 9 months.and vary far and few in between.
I dont really trust any guy with my heart.. lol ...no way..so Id be vary careful what I layed out there and expect some one to except as normal to them, cuz it just may not be as normal as you think. And no ....I dont like girls.....lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): This sort of funny to me, because I like to live my life as a vary private person, I tell no one more then i have to , that way years from now they cant come back with what you have shared in private, but of course my longest relationship has been not more the 9 months.and vary far and few in between.
I dont really trust any guy with my heart.. lol ...no way..so Id be vary careful what I layed out there and expect some one to except as normal to them, cuz it just may not be as normal as you think. And no ....I dont like girls.....lol
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (12 November 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's a well thought out answer Tennisstar88! Thank you as always for providing your comments! :^)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 November 2011):
 There's just some information you don't disclose...
-Sexual history, i.e. how many people you've slept with.
-Any skeletons in your closet that you don't want let out, such as maybe cheating on a past boyfriend but you haven't cheated since, cops busted you with weed that wasn't medicinal and you spent the night in jail, previous abusive boyfriends, one night you were raped in college but luckily pressed charges against the scum, at one point you went thru a phase of cross dressing, etc.
-Security information. Bank account numbers, social security number. Just to protect your identity.
Now sexually, I think you should be open as possible (not talking about 3somes), but if you're into S & M then by all means share. Too often sex gets redundant and just needs to be switched up from time to time.
When you get married, then there should be no secrets.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (4 November 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the compliment KittieS! And I'm glad you enjoy reading my articles. :^)
I appreciate your comments on the topic as well- and I believe you bring up some very valid points.
Best!
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (4 November 2011):
 I love your thought provoking articles!I think many people feel so worried about the reaction of their partners that they don’t share in their fantasies! i think it would be good to see some direction on how people should share their fantasies - remembering sexual fantasy is just that fantasy!I’m all into people enjoying their sex life so much more, and i think if people embraced this they will be so much happier in their relationships with their partners
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (25 October 2011):
Daniel the love doctor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for sharing your comments Janniepeg. I appreciate your input! :^)
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 You should feel comfortable sharing anything in a committed relationship. You show trust when you can confide in a person completely. When you share things that only your partner will know it glues an unbreakable bond. Those fantasies don't have to mean anything and they don't have to be actualized. What's important is that this is an interesting, hidden piece of you that's unique. Throughout the years you test your partner how much he/she accepts you. First you start with little secrets like when you were 9 you still wet your bed, then when you feel comfortable you go on to deeper ones such as I enjoy watching shemales.
It depends on the person. Some are more talkative some enjoy keeping things to themselves. There is no right or wrong. A balance between sharing and privacy is good.
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