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writes: I think I'll never be good in bed.My boyfriend says to me that I have to make new things and If I don't it will be boring but I don't know what to do.what new can i make.something sexy?I get really confused every time that we have sex,his words asking for something new are running through my head and I know that he is especting something totally new and sexy...help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): He may mean new positions, alot of men like to try as many positions they can before they cum. Maybe you can make it fun and go to somewhere like ann summers an get some position cards or games, or you can dress up. If you look on ann summers website you'll see loads of things you can try, like treats you can eat while doing oral sex etc... Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2005): Sweetheart: How can you be alive in 2005 and not know where to get ideas for better lovemaking? Go the library. go to Adult book and video stores. Use the internet to get ideas. there is all kinds of porn, both soft and hard core, on the internet, and much of the free stuff is pretty good for ideas. You can change where you make love. Don't do it only in the bedroom, with the lights out, under the covers. Be Brave, throw those covers back. Turn a light on. Catch your lover in the shower and give him a back rub. Then a front rub. Let your fingers roam. If he's still catatonic, take his hands and show them where to roam. Insist that he wash your back, front, bottom, etc. Great him at the door with no clothes on, or with only a sexy apron on. Add class, by having a glass of champagne to hand him. take his pants down and play with his penis. If he smells bad, take the rest of his clothes off, and walk him to the shower, while holding his penis in your hand. Be gentle. He will be in happy shock. Wash him. Or make him a bubble bath in the tub, and climb in and wash him. Take him in the tub. Screw him in the living room, or dining room. Give him a hand job, or a blow job when he is working in the garage or on his car. Use a finger to stimulate his perineum during oral or manual sex. Insert your finger in his anus and massage his prostate during oral sex, and what how much he cums. Trim your pussy hair, or shave it off altogether. Or have him shave you. And then you shave him. Read magazines that have articles with things to do. I found such an article long ago in a back issue of Penthouse Magazine. It listed 69 ways to please your lover, and actually listed twice that many, as it had two lists, one for men and one for women. I share it with my wife, and we went down each of the lists and marked the ones we had already done. We amazed ourselves that we had done more than 50 on each list, and we could easily add to the list things we had done that were not on the list. Reading the lists aroused us both, and we made love long into the night. We were on the way home one night, and she told me she had never done it in a car! I found a private lane to park in, and we climbed into the back of the car and made love. Cars are alot smaller than they were when I was younger, and we almost killed ourselves trying to fit in that back seat. But, she couldn't say she had never made love in the back seat of a car the next day! Any adult that is embarrassed to read porn, or look at X rated movies has a real problem. Sex is Adult fun. For consenting adults. If you are making love and not enjoying it, you are probably doing something wrong. If you are not laughing, you are probably making love to the wrong person. If you are in a committed relationship, there is no sin to having adult Fun. If sinning is your bag, then have casual sexual relationships with people you hardly know. Just take precautions to not be sharing your sex organs with everyone they ever made love to.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (17 June 2005):
Ask him 'what new things?' He'll ive you the answer and you'll know. Explain your situation to him, how it confuses you, and if you don't want to do those new things, then tell him you're not ready just yet. If he says it's going to be boring, then tell him 'tough'. The trust and love is important, not the sex.
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reader, communicatrix +, writes (16 June 2005):
 Well, your boyfriend is right--over the long haul especially, variety keeps things interesting.
Since it sounds like your difficulty isn't that you're not game, just inexperienced, why not put the ball back in his court? As in, "Gee, honey! That sounds great! I sure don't want things to get dull, either. Why don't we take turns coming up with new stuff--you first!"
Meanwhile, head to your local major bookseller (the one with a section on sex) and start reading up so you have a few suggestions when your turn rolls around.
But it's not all on you, sister. It takes two to tango, and if he's expecting you to become some kind of sexed-up Baskin-Robbins, you might do better to find yourself a more sensitive, sharing partner.
(Do you guys even have Baskin-Robbins over there?)
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