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anonymous
writes:Me and my gf decided we were gonna have sex last other night but when we started it was hurting her and she said she wanted to stop for now so we did. I told her we could stop at any point and that i wouldn't think any less of her. We have been friends all through out our school lives so are totally comfortable with each other. She says she feels like a failure because she couldn't do it and got scared i've told her theres nothing to worry about and that we can always try again another time when she wants. She know i will always love her, i'm not the kind of guy that has many gf's and thinks about sex all the time, she has always been the only one for me for yrs and only just this last yr did i get the courage to tell her after everyone was saying she loves me more than anything and its killing her. What can i do to make it feel better for her next time we try i know for sure she was well lubricated and she says she was. I think shes jut feels really down about it all and i want to make it better please help. We are also both virgins btw
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reader, puzzled  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 your first time is always awkward dont be pressured about it, no one is a failiure in dis situation. take it easy breathe and relax(relaxation helps the vagina becum nore loose and able to push the penis in easyier) slowly do it. after about your 3rd/4th time yous will be experts with each other and will be trying all sorts of positions! messge me if you need any more help. im always here. good luck(not that yous will need it;)...)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): Hi There,
I am from holland and had 10 years sex with al lot of pain, at least i could not sit in my bad or touch it with my finger...
What was wrong? well my mussle on the out site of my vigina was too tide ful of stress, those people need to be the boss and stop when ever they wil, try to do some unstress full things little touching and kisses etc.
You have to find out your self furst wat you like and ask your partner to do the same by you.
Try to relax. one stap at a time
goog luck...
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reader, xAngeliquex +, writes (29 July 2007):
 Yep, I agree with Uncle Trev..
I lost my virginity when I was ontop; first we were in missionary position but it wasn't happening, so we waited a few minutes and I then went ontop. Felt alot better and I was alot less tense as I was in control of the speed of penetration and the deepness of it.
Find this is a great position, easier entrance.
x
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (28 July 2007):
The information here that has been given already is really good and spot on. I feel I can only add one thing to it though that has not been mentioned.
If your girlfriend takes the position of going on top so she has full control and decides how far the penetration goes. If she is in full control it just may help further relaxation which may improve things a little more.
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reader, sweeite +, writes (28 July 2007):
i think you two both need to talk and maybe the reason it never happen because you two were both thining of how to do it, you both need to make sure your bot relaxed before anything can happen, tell your gf hw much she means to you and that it can happen to anyone, when you both decide to do it again make sure you two aint thinking about how yo do it and just think about each other, sometimes when sex is on your mind so much it wont happen. take it one step at a time and trust me it will happen, keep in touch xx
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reader, jk0 +, writes (28 July 2007):
i'm in a similar position to yourself.my advice: just keep being a sweet guy and give your everything to her, she can't ask for more than that. Try not to make it a big issue, forget about it and have fun with each other and show her that you are happy with the relationship you have - without the sex. This might make her see that it really isnt a big issue and most girls have had the same thing. Tell her that if the issue crops up in conversation or if she is down about it. Don't rush into anything, take it slowly and it will be even more special when the time comes. Take it easy man, i hope this helps. mail me if you want any help.JK
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): Aww! Darlings that’s perfectly normal that this has happened you sound like a sweet and caring boyfriend who’s putting no pressure on your girlfriend at all,
Just carry on being supportive theirs no harm in waiting when you both feel completely ready it will happen naturally,
Don’t put pressure on making everything too special and perfect just have fun and I’m sure she will feel more at ease,
This happened to me the first time and luckily my then boyfriend understood too, and the first time was painful the second time was memorable,
Try not to worry just enjoy every moment of being together both in and out of the bedroom.
Take care
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