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writes: hi, i hope someone can help i love my boyfriend very much as he does me but we cant have sex when we attempted to have intercourse his foreskin burst in 2places the blod loss was horrific he says it cos he's to big and i'm tight now he wont attempt it again. please help 21 f. x
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reader, clara +, writes (24 May 2006):
clara is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks to those that answered my question it was a great help , to hanniesed, the answer to your question is no its not first time sex for him or me but he's told me that the same problem happened when he lost his virginity, the split did heal properly with no complications both with me and his ex its been few month since it happended but loses the head if i touch or grind softly against his penis without inserting it our relationship is great apart from lack of sex it doesnt seem to bother him but i have a high sex drive i'm trying to understand and encourage but this cant go on forever!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Hi there! Its more common than you think, and it could be that hes got a very short Frenulum, the part that joins the foreskin to the head of the penis, or indeed was just tight from first time sex, or something like that. I have had first hand knowledge to this as this happend to my man! (not that he will thank me for telling everyone!) Anyway, some men this happens to it heals and everything is fine if you take it steady for a while, it tends to heal in about 2-4 weeks, but will be sore. The blood loss is horrific as its a main arterty and you do have to be careful to ensure that the blood stem is stopped very quickly so as to not cause further problems. However, if its whats known as a Frenulum breve, This,restricts movement of the foreskin over the head of the penis, leading to soreness, bruising and occasionally a small but painful tear, and this does happen over and over then he may need a slight op to extend the frenulum, now this does all sound scary, but its not as bad as all that. and once extended should cause no further problems. (takes about an hour to perform the op)I think he may need to see a doctor if this should happen again. Or maybe if hes very bothered still, go along now to have it looked it to see to what extent the problem is. It could just have been a one off or it may need to be treated. Maybe use some lube and help him with masturbation for a while and see what happens, i can understand that he is going to be apprehensive about having sex, but use plenty of lube and be relaxed and let him gradually feel more comfortable inside, but it is very common and something can be done to fix it, it could have already healed and cause no further problems. See if you can have a look at it and see if it looks as though it has healed nice, but he may need to see a doc. This happend to my man 3 times and we thought each time it will get better, as they recommend the healing time upto 4 weeks, so anyway long story short he had to have an op, it wasnt that his was short it was just unfortunate angle that we had sex and the frenulum snapped(ouch!) so didnt fuse back properly, he had the op and alls well now. There are plenty sites out there that have info should you need it. http://www.guardian.co.uk/health/story/0,3605,659196,00.html
Hope this helps I tried to cover the angles!
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Hi there, this happened to my partner as well along time ago, and yes it was frightening. But after a week or two when the split had healed we tried again and although it was a little sore for him at first it did get better. And lubrication DOES help!
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Hi there,
Is this the first time ever for him having sex?
The only thing I can suggest is that you buy some KY or similar lubricant and put HEAPS on and take it very, very slowly. It would be such a shame if he didn't want to try it again, but of course understandable after him bleeding. All you can do is encourage him to you want to try again and to lube up and take it slow.
I hope this helps! xxx
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