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writes:So there is this guy at my high school who is apparently the biggest player and has had sex and relationships with many many girls. He is very attractive and has a way with words. But all he wants from girls is one thing: sex. I found this out because he tried talking to me for about 2 weeks and I didn't know what I was getting into till last Friday when me and him had sex. Now see, he left his phone charger at a friends house so his phone is dead and I haven't had the chance to really start a conversation with him since that day. At school he says hi and what not, but There is still tension. People have found out because of varied reasons, but I know he is used to people knowing about his business and it really doesn't seem to bother him. I don't know how he really feels about me. I know falling into his trap was stupid and the sex was wrong but I can't help but think that it happened for a reason. His bestfriend told me that the reason me and him haven't talked so much is because he wants me to start up a conversation with him without a million people around us. I really like him, and I know he will not change for me, but I am not completlyy sure. He wants to hangout with me again tomorrow but I am not sure if I should, but I really want to. What should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 October 2010):
You're absolutely right. It did happen for a reason. He wanted to add you to his list of women, and he has done. And he'll continue to use you while you let him. You know all he wants his sex. There's a trail of broken hearts before you, and there will be a trail after. He won't change for you. For two reasons
1 - Changing takes years, not just a quick fling. And a person changes for themselves, not anyone else. He will change one day when he wants, in his own time. He will not change within a few weeks for you.
2 - You've already given him sex. It's too late now. the thrill of the chase is gone, the mystery is gone, and he doesn't have to work for it, date for it. Nothing. He's had the party, now he's back because you'll let him.
Sorry, but unless all you want is no strings sex, you're already lucked out on this guy. He's had his way.
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