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writes:so i've been dating this guy for only about 3 months. everything was great i thought, however he had some difficulties having sex. it only happened a few times but i guess it drove him crazy, and now he says he can't do this anymore because it's all he thinks about. he thinks about it when he's with me and whenever he thinks about me and it's even interferring with work. he even went to see a family friend psychologist who suggested waiting 3 months before anything sexual, but he still thinks about it constantly.i'm really crazy about this guy and we have a lot of fun together. i tried talking him into trying to fix it and just trying it again, but he says he doesn't know if he can handle it happening again. is there anything i can say or do to get this guy back? it just seems like an issue that we should be able to work out, but either of us know how. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thank you. he's going to a conference this week so he'll have a lot of time to think about me haha. hopefully he'll pull his head out of his ass and change his mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionouch i was going to say! haha. yeah.. he basically said that this is bothering him so much that it's all he thinks about when he's with me and he doesn't know what he would do if it happened again. so now he'd rather just not be with me than try to work on it... we get along very well and have so much fun together but this is the only issue. apparently it was bothering him more than i knew. i told him we could try to work on it and do whatever it takes but he wasn't willing to try. i'm hoping that he realizes what a stupid choice he's making! any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso what are the chances you think he'll come back to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno.. he's not unstable. he's a doctor himself actually. he just had some difficulties keeping it up a few times and took it pretty personally. he insists that it has nothing to do with me and i believe him.
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