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Ever since our honeymoon over 30 years ago, my wife has always insisted on making love at some prearranged time with at least a week before our next assignation and it usually lasts for about an hour - certainly no more. It was not like this before we were married when we took every opportunity. I have been faithfull despite the frustration and my higher sex drive. She agrees she is inflexible and vows to change but this only last a couple of weeks and then she drifts back. She enjoys sex when it happens. I know she has proper orgasms. I do anything she wants and I am 99% sure she is happy with my performance in bed. She says it is one of the reasons she married me, She masturbates quietly on her own and tells me afterwards in a very casual way not appearing to imply anything other than the truth which is it relaxes her and helps her sleep.
She responds normally to sexual stimulus. She was enthralled and glued to the first pornographic video she saw. In fact she could not get the sexy scenes out of her mind - she went over them several times. We enjoy all of what she saw in our own repertoire in our own way. She is happy to reciprocate and enjoys giving me different types of stimulation equivalent to what she wants me to do for her. I am the more adventurous and she rules out some of what I suggest and I don't push anything. She is a bit regimented in bed though too. We tend to deal with one person at a time - she likes to concentrate on what I am doing for her OR what she is doing for me but gets annoyed by any mutual pleasureing. She still looks attractive and has not been ashamed to be naked in public. If she gets sexually excited she will masturbate without guilt. So in many respects she is normal and uninhibited.
But in the last 3 years I have been inflicted with Parkinson's and things have gotten worse. First I've been thrown out of bed - she can't sleep with my changed sleep pattern. I think she has been looking for a good excuse to do this ever since we were married. But I now cannot get an erection to order so I usually can't perform on our prearranged dates. Yet for example today I have had two spontaneous and "like I was 18" erections, But at the first I was told she had a meal to make and the second time [9.30 in the evening] I was told that she was off to have a bath and then she was going to bed [alone] and she would see me [about that erection and sex] on Sunday at 10 am as usual. And I have told her all about the problems I am now having.
What is wrong and what should I do? We tried Relate but she would not stay the course. It was not proving too helpful as they don't really like tallking about sex anyway. She is looking after me as a patient very well and she is thought of as a kind and considerate person and she will put herself out for her friends. But our cat gets up on her lap and gets stroked almost every time he asks. When I ask to sit on her lap and be stroked she says "I'll make time for you on Sunday at 10am as usual, OK!"
Hope you can help,
B
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Hey dude.im sory your wife is denying you the sex you needed.join her to the masturbating world, make her jelause,lol but yes,it works
A reader, DA DON, writes (5 February 2005): When in Rome, do as the romans do. Since your wife likes to secretly masturbate and spring it up in a conversation u start to do the same (and for fun u can put it on her face). The same way she tries to control sex u must take it back. Sex can only go both ways unless u like being controlled. As far as sex being only on sundays take your thongs off and put ya boxers back on man. If u have parkinson's and your wife can't even grant u this one thing then u asked the wrong question. Your question should be should i still be with my wife.
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