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writes:In today's modern world, we as people have to be cautious and informed when making decisions. I think this is especially true when it comes to sex. STDs are at a high in the US across the age spectrum. How can you really have safe sex? You could potentially contract a disease just from kissing. Condoms are meant to protect against pregnancy not STDs, it is possible to get a STD even with a condom.So what is today's sexual etiquette? Not everyone gets tested and not everyone who tests positive for a STD willingly shares the information with other sexual partners. So how do you go about protecting yourself? What questions do you ask? What will you absolutely not do? Do you use condoms for oral sex (male/female)? And, do you think it is too strident to ask someone when their last exam was or if they would get one before sleeping with you? What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Where is life without risk?You take a risk of dying the moment you wake up every day.You take a risk of losing whenever you eneter a competition.You take a risk of heartbreak when you fall in love.And yes, you take the risk of catching an STD if you are not smart enough to use precautions before and after sex.The point is, we take these risks, face them, rather than run, because if we avoided everything that COULD have negative consequences, life would be colourless. Meaningless.Risk brings on adrenalin. And adrenalin makes us alert, excited. Its what beats through our veins when we see someone who tickles our fancy.Its what some experience when plummeting 10,000 feet with nothing more than a big sheet and some string attached to their torso.Its why we can go to space. Its why we have jets, and surfing and why we can now fly.But at the same time, one must know their limits. One doesn't leap into the abyss without that sheet and strings to give us a fighting chance of not hitting the ground at terminal velocity. That would be ignorant.Flynn 25
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): The rules are simple. Everyone risks STDs now. The culture has decided that the fun of casual sex is more important than the damage it does to the future partners.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): This is a great question I wish I had of thought about these things a few months ago.
I was in a relationship for 8 years and we never used protecion...we were exclusive.
After this I dated a guy and we slept together for a few months before doing it without a condom. I thought because he had recently come out of a long term relationship like myself that he would be clean. turns out he gave me Chlamydia and Gonnorhoea.
I would reccomend using condoms at all times with all partners and only having sex with them after the exchange of STD test results. Never have casual sex it is not worth it. Never again will I be so stupid and careless with my health!
The only time I will have sex without a condom is if I get married. The next time i have undprotected sex it will be on my honeymoon (afte the exchange of test results lol). My current partner knows this and respects my decision!
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