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writes:I have been thinking if I should lose my virginity to my boyfriend that I've been going out with almost a year. He's a virgin too, we're both 15 years old. Since I'm his first love and he's mine to we want our first time to be with each other but I don't know if I'm ready because sometimes I feel like maybe when I do have sex with him maybe that's all he's going to want and I feel like when he gets some he's just going to be asking for more. But at the same time I think that I wouldn't do it right. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): If he does the the kitchen he will come back again and again to use the appliances. Once you start having sex you will most likely have sex again and again. As the old saying goes "ONCE YOU POP IT'S HARD TO STOP." You and your boyfriend are just getting into the swing of life (as I myself am). Don't feel you have to do something because you "know," your in love. If your in love you'll be okay 4 years or 4 months from now still not having sex. And even though you believe that right now your in love, I feel compelled to tell you that love is about more then the how you two feel together under the sheets. It's about working w/ each other, etc to accomplish things that in the long run will be good for you. You're just 15 . Are you ready for the emotions that come from sex. Because I have to tell you that once you have sex i'd be super hard to get over him being gone if you two ever broke up. Sex is more then a 30 second to 30 minute thrill It's something that'll make you 2 more connected even after the other person has moved on. Just take some time to think about this. You'll never have a first time to share with someone again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): If your not ready, then you shouldnt do it. If you decide to do so, be safe...ok?=)
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reader, helpjayne  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 How would he know if you weren't doing it right anyway, It'll all come naturally and maybe you should talk to your boyfriend about this, but make him wait if you're not ready because you might end up regretting it and you might be all tense and it will hurt a lot. If you're really sure when you do it, your body will relax and you can both tell each other what you like. Don't be rushed into it and don't feel as if you're under pressure if he's a keeper he'll wait until you're really sure.x
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reader, el Lori +, writes (14 November 2008):
 It sounds like there is a part of you that is telling you to wait if you feel that you are not ready. Listen to your instincts they are there for a reason. You are both very young and have plenty of time to experience sex later. Be patience its a big responsiblity. Its best to wait. However, if you feel you both cannot wait please go to a clinic learn what you both are getting into. Make sure you understand the mechanics of how everything works and how birth control works. Hopes this helps, be safe and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): What's the age of consent in your state? In most places it's 16 so if it is I would wait until you're 16, it will give you more time to think it over.
Don't doubt yourself as nobody is perfect first time! Communication is key! Tell each other when you're doing well, and if you're not then how to make it better =]
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