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writes:me and my girlfriend have an issue, i wouldnt call i a problem as we still haev an active and enjoyable sex life.the problem is foreplay when we are kissing sometimes i like to play with her tits and maybe even finger her pussy to get her turned on, but she will not play with my cock at all, I have tried to push her hand down there but she will move it back once i let her hand go.when i ask her she just says she doesnt like touching my dick, is is just me that finds this weird?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): I've been married 15 years. What works is communication. First ask her where she likes to be touched/kissed/rubbed. Do it to please her. Let her know your intention of pleasing her. Then request her to please you likewise. Tell her your fantasies/desires and convince her how much that will pleasure you. Show it! But if she still doesn't likes it, live with it (for now).
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Maybe she's frightened that if she touches you, you may take it as a green light for oral sex and this is something that a lot of women don't feel comfortable with for whatever reason. If you keep pushing her hand down, she'll feel under more pressure and may start to resent you for it because she doesn't want to and your persistence could eventually put her off. Maybe just ask her (nicely) why she doesn't want to return the favour and see what she says - she may even loosen up a bit once she knows that you care enough to figure out why she wont :)
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reader, Harry Castle +, writes (22 April 2009):
 It takes all sorts, in this strange world of ours.I suppose from your point of view, it is odd and maybe you have never had a partner who doesn't like to touch you there, but it isn't THAT rare when you consider how many women there are in the world, all different!I expect she doesn't like the feel of it or maybe not sure what to expect if you cum in her hand or over her?What to do about it?Perhaps you could masturbate for her to show her what happens, what you like - even get her to do likewise for you as part of a mutual training session to learn more about each other?Lie on your back and start masturbating yourself, and invite her to take over - but if she does, DO warn her when you are about to cum! She will appreciate that and may possibly let go and withdraw, but at least she will be a stage further along the way to pleasing you.Make sure you please her in a similar way after watching what she does for herself, though - it's only fair......Harry.
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