Sex is still uncomfortable after a year.

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Im 22 and my bf is 20, we had sex for the first time after being together for 6 months, it wasn’t as terrible I thought it was gonna be, I mean it hurt but I didn’t bleed and it wasn’t terrible, the problem was that once he was in, it hurt when he moved, it felt like his penis was hitting a wall or pushing something, and I felt like I needed to go to the bathroom (#2). The second day was better but he got out for a couple of seconds and when he put it in again, it was the same thing as the first time. We went to the doctor and said we should wait, that it was gonna get better with time. To sum things up, one year exactly has passed and it’s the same, we use lubricant, oral sex for even more lubrication, massages, kisses, laughter, different poses, and even if im very aroused once he penetrates me, it’s the same thing, feel like his penis is hitting a wall and feel the need to make #2. Im desperate because im getting tired of trying, sometimes I don’t want to try because I know what’s coming, and that messes everything up. I thought after a year it was gonna be normal, you know like you see in movies, that we were going to be able to enjoy penetration, I was thinking about getting a relaxing pill, maybe im not relaxed and that’s why is not working, maybe, even im on the pill, deep inside of me there’s fear of getting pregnant and disappointing my mom specially, I don’t know. In one year there has been only about 3 times that his penis slides right in without pain or without feeling that it’s very tight, but once he takes it out and put it in again, guess what, same thing… have this happened to someone else after soooo long? I need help please!

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