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writes:My boyfriend and I are planning a play-date between his kids and my godchild (since I don't have kids). I'm nervous about meeting his kids, they're very pretty little girls, one is 9 and the other is 2. I just want them to like me, even a little. But, I'm not sure how to proceed. What do I do when I'm introduced? What shouldn't I do? What should I do? Please help me, I would like to try and be their friend. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2012): Bubbles are almost always a big hit for outdoor activities. (just another suggestion for something you could have on hand to make some enjoyable moments.) They might enjoy learning something you have an interest in, as well, hobby wise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2012): These are perfect answers. I have one more thought too and that is to never try to suggest you wish to replace their mother. I would have them call you by your name at first and if they decide later to start calling you something else like mom it will come from within and naturally rather then feeling pushed into that. It does not sound as if that is going to be an issue at this early stage though. It sure is a wonderful thing you both are doing to get to know the children. I wish your play-date thingy to go super well. I hope your godchild enjoys herself as well. Enjoy your time.
When I was a child I did not see a lot of my biological father, and one day he said he had a girlfriend and wished for my little sister and I to meet her. We were so excited as we had never met any lady friend of his before. She was super great. We sat at a table and carved pumpkins together. She was afraid and nervous at first as she had no kids but we just loved her. She was also afraid that we might not like her because she had a limp from a bad hip but we did not care... that just made her more personable to us. 9 and 2 are very different ages wow. You might ask their father what they are interested in before you meet them too. Or what they like and dislike. Some fathers might know that information some not. I am curious at how old your godchild is. Do you see her a lot or will this be new to go out with her as well?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 July 2012):
 Perhaps the only advice you need to hear is: "Don't act like their Father's girlfriend..."
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (27 July 2012):
 Bring something along with you that the girls would like. Coloring books and crayons are a hit with almost every child.
When introducing yourself, kneel down and get on their level. Look them in the eye and smile. Use a very warm and friendly voice.
Just be kind to them and treat them respectfully. Kids are a lot more resilient and aware than we often give them credit for. Just try and stay relaxed and friendly, and you'll be fine! ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2012): They are going to love you. You already are showing the most important thing - interest in them! but also a kindness and liking of their father. Kids love attention and they usually love their parents and see them in a good light. It does not matter if you have any background in being around children at all; that will come naturally as you learn what each child is like and how they decide to interact with you. Do not be pushy... just follow them on what they suggest; they will lead you.
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