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writes:I am having a little trouble in the bedroom! i lost my virgity to my boyfriend 2 months ago. But it hurts him to have sex with me! he has a large penis could this be why? he says it is like "having sex with sandpaper" is there anyway i could loosen up so it dosent hurt him.. we sometimes have to go days on end without having sex because his penis is scraped and bleeding. i dont like hurting him. please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (28 March 2007):
 I've been rubbed raw before and it can bleed, so I wouldn't be concerned, unless he's a hemophiliac. LOL. If you don't mind him going down on you, he can help get you nice and wet with his tongue. Otherwise, I'd recommend K-Y Jelly.
Good luck!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hi there,
I would be a bit concerned that hes bleeding ? Ive experinced sex when its a bit lets say drier than usual and used a lubricant, but my partner has never bled because of this.. maybe a little sore maybe a bit red, but not to the point of bleeding.... That is a concern. Is there a bacterial infection thats causing this, maybe you have thrush and have passed this on to him. Abbrasions to the skin that are dry will cause them to bleed if under pressure, but I think you should get him checked out.
If you are that tight causing him to bleed, then I would have though that pentration would have been impossible!
I think that one or both of you has a slight infection, and thrush is very common for causing a sandpaper type gritty feel when having sex, I think maybe pop along to the doc to see for sure, if you both do have thrush, then it would cause him to hurt and be very dry and the skin to break. its easy to treat though so thats a bonus, but I dont know for sure, but it wont hurt to get checked out for both your healths.
If it is just due to lack of lubrication then there are many on the market you can buy... KY Jelly is good as well as the new Durex play range. Also maybe use a condom for a while till this all calms down. I wouldnt say that you need to be stretched to become looser as the vagina expands to allow the width of a penis naturally and is in the main pretty supple, it would be a dryness thats the problem, in which case experiment with some lubricants, its all part of the fun!
Take care x x
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reader, mum2be +, writes (28 March 2007):
The only thing i can suggest in a situation like this, if you want to loosen yourself up, is to try playing with some toys... it can spice up your love life, and will stretch you out a little, so it is not so uncomfortable for him.
Maybe slipping one finger in, and then two, then three and so forth, and get your boyfriend to do the same, as this will also help loosen you.
Dont forget to have loads of foreplay, as this will wetten you up a bit and allow for smoother entry.
Another thing you can try is using lube and condoms, as these will protect his penis and make entry esier!
i hope this helps
xxx
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