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writes: My problem is that I don't enjoy sex at all. I have gone to doctors and they say that am fine but I don't enjoy it. I either feel pain or have no feeling at all. I always get aroused and well lubricated (naturally) but penetration feels nothing or painful.I live with a man and we are about to break up because of this problem.please advise me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2005): Hello hunny.I am sure this problem is very real to you even though the doctors can find nothing physically wrong with you. Sometimes in the throes of passion a man can get a little carried away and starts to thrust a little deeper and so hence a little harder and this can cause some discomfort if they hit the cervix.Have you tried different positions to try to find the most comfortable one for you? Part of the problem could be psychological for you too. You have grown so used to expecting to feel pain that perhaps you cannot relax enough to really feel and enjoy the sex. Sometimes it can be that after a woman has had children she can be left with some scar tissue too, which is less sensitive when touched.If you feel though that there may still be something physically wrong you can always see another doctor for a second opinion,and they shouldn`t mind. Try taking the lead role though and that way you can be in control the penetration. Sometimes it really is as simple as lessening the depth of penetration the man has. Try going on top or doggy or as many different ways as you feel comfortable with you can then judge for yourself which you find the least painful. I hope this helps you. Thank you.
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reader, clare_bear +, writes (8 May 2005):
Ask him to pay more attention to your clitoris, as it has more nerve endings and is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. Also try positions that he can give your clit attention as well as penetrating you as over 80% of women can't reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation.
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