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writes:I'm twenty years old and lost my virginity at 17, I've had 3 sexual partners but have probably only had sex around 40 times in total over 3 years. It's not that I ~dislike sex it's just a bit... I don't know, I don't see what all the fuss is about? Is it just because I'm young and I'm not used to it yet or is there something wrong with me?! Stuff beforehand can feel good but nothing seems to "tip me over the edge" and the actual sex part is a bit... blah... and it feels weird. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): There is nothing wrong with you. Women are bombarded with unrealistic sex depictions ALL the time, whether it be movies, romance novels, or stories from other people. You start to think that sex is this fabulous thing with really intense orgasms, screaming and other strong sexual responses. In reality, as with most things in life, it's really over-rated. I used to be you. I, too thought that there is something wrong with me. Eventually you realize that your expectations were too great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2011): When you meet the right man and make love - it won't feel 'blah'In the meantime instruct - no man's a mindreader
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (14 August 2011):
 Well there are things that you could do to enjoy it more like...1. Encourage more foreplay. Many times during intercourse the man usually gets off before the woman. Leaving the woman to think "is that all?". If you encourage more foreplay and ask the guy to use his tongue and hands more, you should feel better after the sex. tell him to use foreplay food (such as small fruit, honey, chocolate, or whipped cream) as well to .2. Talk dirty. I think this is self-explanatory. :^)3. Change positions. If you're always stuck doing the same position(s) all the time, change it up. You may also want to change the locations as well. Spice things up by doing it in places in the house (or out) where you never done it before. 4. Increase your stimulation. During sex, try to rub on your clitoris- and alter the speed that you do it. 5. Communicate. Let him know how you like it. Tell him to go faster, slower, harder, or deeper(*in this case, he may hit your G-spot), depending on your mood. Let him know what you like. Always communicate.
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