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writes:I need some advice here.I'm turning 16 in 2 months. I never had a boyfriend. I don't know how to kiss (i don't think any guy will want to go out with me when they see i don't know how to kiss) and I don't personally think I'm ugly, I am confident, my friends tell me I'm pretty, but the thing is, guys just don't like me, and idk what to do to change that situation. I really want a boyfriend cause i think i'm ready and i just want one you know. I need it. What can i do?Another thing is, I'm a virgin. Most of the people I know are not. The guy I've liked for 3 years is not a virgin, and this year i really wanna ask him out or whatever but I think he's going to ask me to have sex with him, and if I say no he might break up with me. How can i politely say no to him?And other thing, like, i'm 16 and I should not be a virgin, but with ? like I'm young!Finally, i would like to get married as a virgin, but seriously i don't think anyone would get married with a virgin... Any thoughts?
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reader, Miss Karma Louise  +, writes (7 January 2010):
how can you possibly be ready if you havent even had a boyfreind or experienced a kiss before?
its not bad you havent kissed or had a boyfreind you should be rather proud of yourself as you have been a sensible young lady and taken your time to focus on your education instead of boys boys boys.
there is no rush to find a boy or even kiss for that matter
"all in good time."
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reader, LustyMisa  +, writes (7 January 2010):
 Take your time and do what makes YOU feel right. Dont go and screw the first guy that comes along because you're "supposed" to, if you want to stay a virgin till you're married, cool, if not, thats fine to. Sex is great but its easier to regret not having it yet then having had it with the wrong person for the wrong reasons and never being able to take it back. Trust me on that one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Guys in their teens like fun girls who screw them easily. When they get older and want to get serious they aren't nearly so keen on that type of girl anymore. (And yes, a girl's past matters to most guys even though she might have changed her habits since then.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): A LOT of men would prefer to marry a virgin.
If he dumps you because you turn him down for sex when you two weren't married, then he never loved you so it doesn't matter. A nice way to say no? Try, "No." If he keeps bugging you, then stop being nice. A lot of men will tell you that they will dump you if you do not have sex with them, but few will actually do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): Ok the thing is you will worry about kissing and worry about not knowing how but thats what its like when you havent kissed anyone before..the best advice i can give you is just to go with the flow..!dont be too fast or slow just do what he does.
as for the virginity thing, you shouldnt feel presured into losing your virginity just cos of some guys good looks. just because most people have already done "it" doesnt make them any better than you!it makes them cheap sluts who give it up cos of peer preasure! just tell him your not ready or say you havent even been together for long.. :) i really hope i helped :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 January 2010):
You're worrying far too much! You will have a boyfriend, kissing will come naturally to you once you get going, and no man will judge you for not having kissed anyone. And if you're not ready for sex, there's no rush. A man will marry you whether you're a virgin or not, because he will love you. Take your time, speak to guys so you understand us and you'll find your Mr Right. There's no rush.
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