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writes:Ok so here's three general questions opens to guys and gals:What's the sortest length of time you'd feel comfortable with been told that your partner loves you?What is the ideal length of time between starting a new relationship and having sex for the first time?Which normally happens first for most people, love or sex?Just curious to what others think. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Love happens first for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): It totally varies from person to person. It's often said that sex is meaningless (or a mistake) unless there's already an element of love between the people involved. In the real world, I suspect that in the vast majority of cases, sex happens first - and can then lead to love, or not, depending on a zillion factors. Without a shadow of doubt, there are cases where people have felt themselves absolutely falling in love with one another and THEN, as a natural consequence, had sex. But I think it's fair to say such instances, while no doubt unbelievably beautiful, are the exception rather than the rule. And different people have different attitudes about how prepared/ disinclined/ eager they are to enjoy 'casual' sex with gorgeous strangers for the pure sex thrill. Some love it. Some think it's slutty. (I'm in the former camp!) Good question. But it doesn't have a black-and-white answer.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (26 July 2009):
 love should always come first over sex because then sex can be even more meaningful. and as for when is the right time their never is sometimes it just happens!
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