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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone. so my bf and i are in a pretty serious relationship, i love him so very much (will never cheat), he treats me right and sincerely loves me. however, as far as sex goes we lost our virginity to each other, so i guess u could say we are noobs in this department. i cant get off through intercourse AT ALL, and he has only successfully comed a few times (cuz we were worrying about someone walking in haha). if it makes a difference, i dont use fingers or a toy to get myself off, i use a couch or bed. so would that mean it would be harder to have an orgasm through intercourse?so my question to you is : how do i get used to something like a sex toy and fingers when ive done it my way for so long, and is there anything else i can do to stay completely turned on without wearing off?thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2012): I think you both need to explore more with your own bodies. read on it, also try toys and have him use them on you.A lot of times we stop ourselves from reaching an orgasm its not the guy...either we dont feel comfortable or your just not turn on enough...4PLAY is the KEY!your still young give it time and explore the world of sex, im sure in time you will find that one thing that sets you OFF!and over the orgasm rainbow!HEHE goodluck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 January 2012):
 It’s not a question of HARDER to have an orgasm from intercourse for about 70% of the female population it’s IMPOSSIBLE. And if you are worried about someone walking in on you (don’t your doors have locks???) then it makes it even worse.
IF you are used to rubbing on a flat surface perhaps you can try different positions that would rub you in a similar fashion… either him on top with your legs together or facing downwards with him on top of your back..
But the best thing to do is lots and lots of foreplay including rubbing and oral sex…
FIGURE OUT how to orgasm using YOUR hands… if you are used to rubbing on something flat use the palm of your hand (lie face down if you have to)…. From there you transition to HIS hands or fingers…
I have a friend who has a boyfriend who is 51 and he can ONLY orgasm while standing…
What you need to do is teach yourself to have orgasms in other positions.
DO NOT think you will orgasm from penetration… it’s not like in the movies….
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reader, totallyconfused100  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 I would ask your boyfriend to finger you. Ask him to rub outside your vagina then use his fingers inside you. Do it slowly at first. There`s plenty of sites you can google if you want to give him tips. Do this a few times and you and him will learn where you like it the most and it means he can do this before sex and you will be more turned on for sex and hopefully achieve orgasm either during foreplay or sex although a lot of women don`t achieve orgasm during just penetration. Also you can do doggy style and you can rub yourself in that position so you can achieve both penetration and clitoral stimulation which can increase your chances of orgasming.
For him you can always give him a hand job or blow job and again google these to get tips. good luck
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