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writes:I am in high school and have been dating my current boyfriend for roughly 10 months now and live about 30 minutes away, but during the summer we saw each other everyday. I believe that I truly love him and can see us getting married in the future. He is my first serious boyfriend, so I haven't explored much so to say. Just recently, he has been going through a rough time... I think... but he won't tell me anything. He doesn't talk to me as much as we used to and doesn't seem that upset when we don't see each other. I haven't lost any feelings for him, he is just being slightly difficult. My family absoulutely loves him, but I started talking to another guy. Guy 2 has had a crush on me and I had a crush on him too. Now we hang out a lot and my feelings have been getting stronger. He doesn't lead me on at all because he knows how I feel about my boyfriend. But lately, I don't know what to do. Guy 2 and I recently hung out and I kissed him, unprovoked by him, and I'm truly confused by my feelings. My family and friends don't like Guy 2 as much, but they see him as the guy he was freshman and sophomore year, and I can confidently say that I know he has changed. Guy 2 is more confident now than he was before. I have a strong attraction to Guy 2, and I'm not sure if it's just lust, any help would be great. Thus far, I have decided to take a break with my current boyfriend and maybe test the waters more in the dating area, considering we are so young, but I have a hard time committing to Guy 2 and can't see myself doing certain things with him. I am sooooo conflicted. I feel like I'm stuck inbetween a rock and a hard place. Any help would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2012): My first relationship was like this, I was the other guy or "guy 2". We kissed once which was brought on by her, her boyfriend snooped on cell phone and we got caught. She kept on seeing me secretly as I was foolishly trying to win her over. We both got sick of it and she was the one that ended up alone. These type of thing's never end well if you get caught cheating or not, because someone wants one to leave the other or the grass isn't greener on the other side, all sorts of things can happen. If you can't have a serious conversation with him to discuss your concerns regarding your own relationship, you'll never come close to getting married, you already cheated on him. The only reason why you're interested in this guy is because he appeared open to you compared to your boyfriend. He seems better, but when you say you can't see him doing thing's with you, this proves my point, cause you won't and are using him for "needs" that he can currently offer which your boyfriend isn't. Your going to get yourself in a mess dear and from my experience, you'll stay confused till they are both gone, which by that time three people will be going through a lot of pain.
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