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writes:How do you stay positive when you're single? I see all of my friends and some of my exes, happy anHow do I get my husband to stop being so insecure ?d in relationships... Don't get me wrong, I'm truly VERY happy for them and wouldn't wish anything less for them. I just wonder why I can't seem to find that happiness? :(I recently experienced some serious rejection from someone I really cared for (and still do). Getting over this has been really difficult... Honestly, I'm not over it quite yet. And I've been single before, but I've never felt so empty, misunderstood, and hopeless. :(I'm a super positive person, and I've recently made some amazing changes in my life... graduating with a Bachelors, starting my career, losing 55 lbs (and still losing), beginning to run, moving to a new area, dating (I've been in relationships but never really "dated"), etc.And yet, despite all of this, I can't help but fall into a really depressive, morose, lonely place when I come home to my empty apartment. I try to fill the time by being productive... I've done so much for myself yet I feel like relationally I've gone backwards... to nothing. :((I don't share this pain with anyone else. I keep a smile on my face, but it desperately hurts. I feel so alone in this world... :(
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (25 September 2012):
 It sounds like you are making some positive changes in your life and the world is at your finger tips.
I do know what loneliness is like though and you are at a tough stage in your life. Many people your age feel the same way. However, I would encourage you to fully explore what you can do on your own. You are totally unencumbered to make ANY decision you want in life: why not take advantage of it? This may be the best opportunity in your life to try new things, explore new areas and consider opportunities you may never have again. Once you are locked into a relationship, you will always have to consider someone else when it comes to fulfilling your life dreams. Why not explore them?
The right guy will come along when the time is right. Continue to make positive changes and see where this new direction in your life takes you. It sounds like you are still discovering the untapped "you".
When you feel lonely, consider the number of people that do care about you and also consider that the world will never be more open for you than now to fulfill your destiny.
Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 September 2012):
 I think it's about finding things in life you enjoy to do, not just with other but alone too.
I actually enjoyed being single a lot. A traveled a lot, I took some classes (photography and creative writing) and met some really nice people, some of which I still talk to quite often 20 years later.
You got to find ways to be happy about WHO you are. That you are not HALF a person and not complete with out a partner, because that just isn't true. A couple isn't 100% made up from 50/50 but 200% - 100% from each.
I think if you can't be happy in your own company it;s kinda hard for others to do that too.
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