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writes:Hey all,This is not a relationship question but more to do with self improvement. I would love to hear from people who have overcome addictions of any form. I have so many things I want to work towards. I go to work during the day and I keep telling myself in my head "you need to do so and so when you get home". But as soon as I get home, my head goes"you just got here, chill out for a while" and every single time the same cycle repeats. I watch a few videos, use social media and by the time I'm done, it's too late to do anything else. I believe I have the will power to change things but I'm in search of that one trigger that will get me started and keep me going initially before I can make a habit of it. The one thing that hinders me is mental exhaustion after work and the need to relax although I'm rarely physically tired. Pls advice guys. Can you tell me what has worked for you? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2017): hey man- you and me both!
I'm going through a 'slow' point in life and while I have more time to do stuff, I find myself sat in front of the laptop for hours on end, achieving nothing.
You say it's mental tirednes that you have at the end of the day as oppose to physical. The best answer is some exercise, I promise! Get home, change into some exercise clothes before switching any machine on, and go for a jog or bike ride. Get your heartbeat going, even just for 15mins. You will feel good when you get back and your head will be clearer and you will hopefully feel more enthused.
As part of this, make plans for what you will do when you get back from your exercise- clean the house, go to the bar, read a book- and stick to it. Don't turn any technology on untill you've done your plan. It takes a bit of effort to make a habit of it, but once you start you'll feel much better quickly.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (24 March 2017):
 If you can make the effort to join something then you will get back more than you have to put in. In fact you become regenerated. Essentially you have to do something right brained. You can look up right and left brain activities on the net. At the moment your right brain is starved. Get out for a walk. Blow the cobwebs out. Join a painting class or a writing group.
No-one but you can make the effort. If you have a friend in a similar predicament you could try some activity together.
You have a finite time on the planet. Please tell me you won't give so much to social media and videos?
Look, you are in a rut. Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Let a little danger in if you have to (skydiving).
Winston Churchill, when he wasn't winning the war, built a wall in his garden, painted, and won a Nobel Prize for literature.
I like to think switching on the right brain allowed him to achieve greatness.
Work/life balance can easily become unequal. At the end of the day ask yourself what you are doing this job for which demands so much of you.
There are many CEOs who would have had much happier lives working with their hands or doing something other than where they found themselves.
Suddenly you turn around, and where has your life gone?
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