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writes: I was with a guy for 8 months, my longest relationship, and he broke my heart. before him i was let down by 2 other guys that i truly cared for but my recent break was defently the worst. i'm getting over him slowly but its defently happening. my question is i'm so scared of being hurt again, i don't want to let my barriers down again but im a committed person! its so twisted! how can you tell if you can trust someone? and how can you tell if they feel for you the way you feel for them? Reply to this Question
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reader, Babyboo:)  +, writes (22 February 2010):
Hey... I just got my heart broken too... But my boyfriend cheated on me... I was in love with him too....He said he just wanted to protect me.... He told me on valintinesdays too... I'm scared to fall in love again...
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reader, blackberry008 +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Research on: How you can trust someone by just looking at his/her eyes. I have read an article about it before but I forgot the title. And it is also the reason why men get more girls when they are not serious. It is because when men wants only to cheat, their eyes formed better and are more stunning. And also being more good looking than when they want to be serious. I hope you can research on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): i know things like this can really get you down
but just always remember its never your fault
dont bring yourself down beacuse this guy is too stupid to realize what hes lost
i got my heart broke and it took me nearly 3 years to get over the guy (who lived very far away) but i realized that i didnt want to live like i was doing.
you'll get over him and learn to love again without being afraid.
it just takes time
and hard work
you'll get there in end
i hope everything works out
(:
a 15 year old girl from england (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): helloI know how you feel because the same fucking story did happen to me too. and our relationship has lasted exactly 8 months too. now there are 5 months when he left me. and I still love him and can´t change it. I tried to get into a new relationship with a nice guy, but I was so afraid that he would hurt me like my ex did that I just couldn´t fall in love with him in the right way. I hurted him, I think. but I also learnt from my mistake: now I just wait and hope that the pain will go away and it´s just a matter of time I think when you´ll can trust somebody else. just wait. don´t hurry. and sorry for my bad english, I´m only 16 and live in Switzerland, so I do not speak that language very well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): Hi I was really depressed today and wrote "he broke my heart" in the Google search ...and I red your story. This is not my first time and these is not the worse case that a man breaks my heart.
I never used to it and it hardly had impact on my next relationship. Just don't worry and keep on having a positive attitude toward men. You finally find a man who is kind, understanding and committed to you.
Just remember not be pessimist and forget about things which bothers you. That man was not your soul mat and had to leave.
It's better that he left...now you have the chance to find your true love!
cheers
some one like you
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): I think timing is everything for a relationship.You gotta meet the right guy at the right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): i know what you feel like. i recently got my heart broken for the second time in a row by the same person. i loved him and he likes me and it's really complicated. it just won't - can't - happen. give yourself time to heal. don't rush into things or throw yourself at other guys to make him jealous. i know exactly what you're feeling and i wish i could take my own advice. my ex didn't want commitment... so he didn't get me. but this isn't about me, it's about you. learn to love yourself before anyone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): i am sorry. i have been through sh*t like that too. yesterday the guy i went on a date with pretty much said he doesn't think he can love me. and he had insisted on getting more physical before, while i just wanted hugs, kisses, and holding hands. my advice is: next time, don't do much at all with him until you think he truly truly truly cares for you. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): What you should really do is get to be good friends with them. but not the kinda of friend were you like him. and he just see's you as a friend. find things in comman as always. and set up b4 dates. like movies or out to pizza. but not a serious date. it will probly help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007): my hearts been broken too n now i realise the im sick because he hurt me so bad that i kno i will never be a ble to trust a guy again ~ i just wanna say that wen ur looking for love look for some1 u can joke around with n they wont be getting mad ~some one that u can curse @ hehe n they wont get mad theyll just like curse back @ u as a joke ~ u have to kno in ur heart that u trust them !!
u can always test a person too bbut that always works out bad ! :(
just its ur feelings that will tell u if ur in love or if their the one ~ so just trust ur feelings!
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reader, StarNews +, writes (16 January 2006):
 Trust comes naturally. If you trust someone, there should be no doubts about them and you should feel secure in the relationship.
Love is all about balance and compromise. When you love someone, you get a feeling of completeness. If you feel fulfilled, thats a good sign they are meeting your every need, and that they love you equally.
Don't feel so afraid of being hurt again. Instead, make a list of the qualities you want in a person and expectations from a relationship, and stick to it. Let that person know upfront, from the start what you want and need. The first thing on my list is honesty.
You are a committed person, and that is a wonderful quality. Try not to put up a barrier, but be selective. When you open your heart and your mind, that is when you will find the person who is meant to be in your life.
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reader, honzy +, writes (16 January 2006):
Don't be afraid to love again!!!To feel the pain of love is just part of loving.If you can't feel that pain then you will not know that you are loving already.Sometimes, we have to face our fears in order for us to grow.Being afraid to love again is just a normal reaction because of being dissappointed of your failure relationship and you are afraid that it will happen again..but how can you move on if you don't want to accept the fact!!!?If you will continue feeling in that way,i tell you"You will be the one who will suffer in the end"Don't get rush in having a special someone again!!Be careful next time....MR.right will come along in a ryt time...fix first yourself and be ready for a new one..take care always
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