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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of close to 7 years and I are having problems. We tend to argue over silly things and no matter how many times he tells me not to, I continue to do so. It has gotten worse since I moved away for work...we have been doing the Long Distance relationship thing for close to 6 months now. It's tough. He used to be affectionate and after a big argument over the phone, he stopped. He started to become angry, negative and even stopped communicating with me for a week or so. It has been very frustating and painful. I don't know how many times I've said, 'I'm sorry' and there's only so much I can do over the phone or in an email. He recently lost his job and so this makes it more difficult to discuss our problems. I'll be seeing him in a few weeks time but part of me feels -we will just argue. What can I do before then? what can I do to try to calm him down? or help him see that I genuinely care about him and our relationship? Just seems like anything I say or do sets him off. I love him but this is so painful. He did agree to talk things through... Any advice would be great.
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reader, belladonna123  +, writes (24 August 2008):
Hi there. You need to find out if there's un underlying problem. One of the reasons why people tend to "blow up" is because of a deep seated issue or just another issue, whether it be someone at work, or his parents or a friend anything that might be bothering him subconciously. One doesn't just blow up for nothing. Find out what's REALLY bothering him.
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