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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello all, I think I need some guy's opinion here.Here it goes, my ex for a year now has been keeping in touch with me from time to time as a friend. Along the way, I slept with him once 3 months ago but i regretted it so badly that I asked him to stop contacting me if its going to be that way. And he said he is sorry, it will not happen again. He said he just wants to communicate with me at least. So i accepted his apology and never went out with him again to be safe. Yet he calls me for a chat on the phone.Now, i bumped on his room mate and his girlfriend the other day at a coffee shop. We talked about my ex and they confessed to me that for the past 2 months, my ex has been bringing women of different nationalities to his room. They were saying it like it a light topic. But for me, it was somewhat an eye opener. I don't exactly believe what they are saying but I know it could be true atleast 80%. I am not angry or jealous, i am happy that i learned this about my ex. It feels liberating for me that I am no longer with him. Its what matters to me.So this brings me to my question, if it is true indeed that he has been sleeping around, then it seems he is having a wonderful life. He doesn't need even my friendship. So why is he keeping in touch with me then? Please don't give me advise to avoid this guy because I don't want to create drama again of suddenly ignoring his calls because literally, as a friend I have no right to be angry about his activities. He will find me weird if I do that as we were always cheerful on the phone.But if anyone especially the males can tell me their opinion about him? Why do you think he still calls me then? Thanks so much.
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reader, Flubber79  +, writes (20 February 2010):
I would say he still likes you in a romantic way particularly given that you slept together. I was in a similar situation where I split up and had been seeing other people but still kept in touch with my ex. This wasn't to check up on her but basically that I missed her and wanted her to be some part of my life.
It didn't end well however and now we never speak.
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reader, Mia Rio +, writes (19 February 2010):
He obviously still likes you whether it just be in a friendly way or more. I think he probs just wants to be your friend, im still in touch with two of my ex's just because we didnt work as a couple doesnt mean we cant work as friends.
The only other thing i can think of is that maybe he is checking up to see if you are seeing someone else, perhaps he is a little jealous.
Mia
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