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writes:So my girlfriend and I have been dating for like, a month and a few days... We really like each other, no joke. I'm 15 and she's 14. Same grade though, so it's okay. We've gone on lots of fun dates, we're open with each other, i've meet her parents, she's met mine, we've cuddeled and fallen asleep together. I'll be very blunt about this, I have a whoreish past, like kinda bad, i've had sex three times, and i've been with a lot of girls. I'm way head over heels for my girlfriend, and she knows that she feels the same way. I've fingred her, and aten her out already, and could have done more, but i stopped myself and told her I didn't want to move to fast, even though we were in fact moving far to fast. What my questtion is, is how do I keep a slow pace realtionship. I've told you in a nutshel what im dealing with, I'm just 15 and full of horemones, as is she, but i don't waanna do anything I'll regret later . ): help. Reply to this Question
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 To the male anon reader who responded - Jeez, calm down, having sexual experiences with your boyfriend as a teenager does not equal trauma in the future.
I think it's good that you want to keep things at a slow pace.. especially as you feel you probably made a mistake rushing into things with a lot of other girls. I think you should tell your girlfriend that you intend to take things slow, and you want to wait before you go further in your sexual relationship. It's probably better to keep all things sexual on hold for a while.. which I'm assuming is what you intended to do? I guess the best way to do that is not to let you and your girl get into a situation where that could easily happen, so don't let yourselves be indoors alone, for example, or don't go up to your room together. Go out with her, and only go to each other's houses when the parents are home. Basically, don't give yourselves too much opportunity to be alone and have sex haha. Anyway, good luck, anyone can control themselves if they really want to, so if you and your gf really do want to wait, you can, it'll just take some willpower.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): She's 14 guy. Have some respect. That's way too young to be having sex. If you cared for her you wouldn't be doing things with her that could be traumatic to her in her future. When you get married do you want to marry a woman that was getting fingered out by a horny 15 year old? Do the right thing.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 I hate to say you should set a time line for this sort of thing because I don't beleive a relationship should follow a time line but it might really help you.
Sit down with her and discuss and min amount of time before you go any further. That way you could say six months and wait till then and then start discussing it again.
Also you are still young but I know you will have sex with her eventually so just be safe about and make sure she is 100% ready. Doing that does show that you care about her and that in some ways you are mature enough for this.
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