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writes:This Valentines is going to be myself and my Husbands first Valentines together as a married couple. Im quite shy but with the day thats in it, I would love some suggestions as to how to seduce him. Im trying my best to organise a meal for the night before so that on Valentines night we'll have the house to ourselves (also warning everyone not to be calling and to leave us alone).. But How do I start as this is going to be all a new experience for me, and of course, for him to have me seduce him!!Appreciate all your helpx
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reader, Tomas  +, writes (8 February 2009):
Hopefully a lot of guys (and gals) will throw out ideas, as I think this is something that will vary a lot from person to person. You'll have to pick what sounds like something that your guy would go for.So here's what would work for me.The sexiest thing in the world is a woman you are attracted to, showing sexual interest in you. This is heightened when for whatever reason you can't "have" her at the time.So, three factors to work with:1) attractive2) sexual interested3) temporarily unavailableThe attractive part is clothing and (usually) makeup. (It has nothing to do with body shape, by the way.) Something that shows off the body or its curves. Makeup mainly gives the sense of occasion, turns off the autopilot.The sexual interest is the most important part. This depends a lot on the nature of your sexual relationship. Some couples' idea of "vanilla" sex is other couples' idea of far-out kinky. So I'd start by saying that a good seduction hints at something just a little bit more naughty than he knew you had in you.This is where lingerie often comes in, because beautiful underwear is meant to be looked at, which means you want to be seen sexually. This is also (I believe) why guys usually find special trimming "down there" especially attractive - it means she wants you to see all of her body, that she wants you to find her sexually attractive, which means she is sexually interested in you. Again, world's best aphrodisiac.This also leads into the temporarily unavailable bit. My first thought was that, if my wife were to seduce me, it would be much easier if we were actually away from the house (at least for a while). This creates the unavailability. She'd have ample opportunity to let me sneak a glimpse at the beautiful underthings I would see later (or mention causally over dinner that she wasn't wearing any at all). Something to plant that Christmas Eve idea in the mind and let it sit there.[Aside - my wife once took a photo of her cleavage on her phone and sent it to me at work with a "Hungry?" text. I came home for lunch.]Seduction is all about the imagination, so what you want him to imagine, and for how long, is up to you.If you are at home all evening, you can still accomplish a similar effect over dinner, provided you can get him to stay on his side of the table. In fact, you have more leeway to dress up provocatively, tease him and let your foot wander, etc, at home, provided you can keep him on his side of the table.Another classic way to create temporary unavailability is scarves/neckties and bedposts, either in conjunction with dinner/dessert or afterwards. Again, all about creating anticipation.Enjoy, and I hope other folks put up more suggestions for you, as I do think there's a lot of variety out there.
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