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writes:My husband of 6 years has just admitted to me that he slept with another women over 8 years. at the time he lied to me about it. we now have two beautiful children. But I feel very hurt and angry even though it happened so long ago. What should I do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Chances are he told you because it’s been eating him up inside for the last eight years. He’s hurt and has been living with this, but it’s new pain and hurt to you.
If you love this man… truly love him and the life and family you have together than forgive him and make the choice to move on. It may take you time to warm up to this decision and to be ok with it, but it should be an easy decision to make within yourself. Personally I think you’ve already made it, why else would you write and ask for help... this is about a broken trust. I cannot tell you how long it will take to rebuild that and I cannot say that it will ever be what it was.
Your best call in my humble opinion is to tell him these things to be 100% honest with him about your feelings and you need to tell him that you need him to be 100% honest about his feelings. Why has he told you this when it would have made at least your life easier to not know.
You need some honest communication and I’d even suggest marriage counseling regardless of how strong your relationship is/was prior to this news. You have rough times ahead of you as you work to patch this and for that you may need help.
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reader, passionatelynumb  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 Were you together in a relationship when this happened?
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