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36-40,
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writes: I was with my ex bf for 8 years we had a child and 8 months later I was tired of feeling like he did not want to commit. 6 months later I reconnected with someone an got married I left him 6 months after because I realized I was still in love with my ex. I tried talking to my ex but he did not want to get back together. Its been 2 years since we broke up and I still love him and he told me he loved me too. He has gf now been with her for 2 years. I don’t know what to do I feel like we got together when I was 16 and he was 17 we were kids. Am not that person anymore I love him I don’t feel like am going to love anyone the way I love him. I tried 2 years to get over him and I can’t. I don’t know what to do? I told him how I felt and he told me that if I wouldn’t had gotten married we would of been together. I told him that I couldn’t change the past that I could do is be a better person. I want to try to date him to see how it works but he does not trust me. It hurts so bad I don’t know what to do. I can’t just erase him from my life we have a child together. Please give me some advice I feel so lost with out him.Now this is my question. So my ex still loves me he told me himself. I know he wants to be with me even though he has a girlfriend however, I dont know if i should keep pushing and telling him how much i love him and hope that he sees how much i truly care for him and how sorry I am? I dont know what i need to do or say to have him again. please give me some advice.
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reader, Cute Carl  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 1st of all, you need to decide for yourself where your feelings lie. You actually hurt your ex-boyfriend and your ex-husband and your child. Guys can be impatient and they aren't going to wait around for you to make up your mind. If you decide that you really do love the father of your child, tell him so that at least he knows and if he really loves you and he'll come around. Otherwise, just don't push it. Move on and find someone who can help you raise your child and make a happy family. Is your child's welfare a priority? Look at it from his/her point of view because what a kid needs is stability. If this guy is done, he's done. It's time to be a mother.
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