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writes: My twin sister is dating my ex boyfriend. I am not really happy about it, not because he is my ex but because he was abusive and everything to me.I don't really know how to tell her this. Any advise would be great.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 I find it odd that this guy is dating your twin sister, are you two identical? I don't think I could ever date a guy and then date his twin.
However, I do like how you're concerned about your sister's safety more then anything that has to do with jealousy. How about you tell your sister how abusive he was, warn her and also let her know that this is coming from a place of concern, not of wanting him back at all. After that it really is up to her to decide, at least she's been warned.
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reader, uncledarren  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 well this is quite a tricky situation in all honesty. In my opinion i owuld say that you have an obligation to tell your sister after all she is family. However this will go one of two ways.1. you and her have a good relationship so therefore she will understand why you have told her and hopefully she will take what you tell her on board.2. you and her will fall out because she could accuse you of been jealous etc.so before you tell her i think you need to ask yourself some questions. - do you have a good relationship with your sister.- does she know about him been abusive with you.- have you moved on from him and does your sister know this.if the answer is yes two at atleast two of these then i would surgest you tell her, after all she is the only one who can make a decision on what to do with the information. however she needs to know that what ever she decides you are there for her and will support her know matter what. especially let her know that you are there for her to talk to if she needs it. I hope this advice helps you and good luck
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