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writes:my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years now and we are very serious. i go to his house and spend a lot of time with his family and all that. However, in those 2 years we basically fight everyday break up once a week but always get back together. The longest we have gone without talking is a month. Either he calls my work place blocked to hear my voice or he happens to be where i am. I also lost my virginity to him so i love him more than anything. He recently went to visit Armenia and our rules there are that you have to go to the Army, so he is there now and is going to go to the army soon, we broke up before he left but couldnt be without each other so we have gotten back together, now its a long distance relationship until we see when he is coming back or when i am going there, its pretty hard because my family doesnt like him and he isnt a great guy(partying, drugs here and there). He calls me i call him but its not the same, and i feel like there is someone else but i talk to his mom on a daily basis and shes there she says there's no one else but its weird i feel like there is.. I dont know if this long distance relationship is going to work but i love him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 October 2009):
Oh dear. You're clinging onto your first love, you're always breaking up and you even say he's not that great and into drugs some of the time. That's a little worrying to be honest. An LDR can never work unless two people are totally committed to each other, with no distrust and a huge amount of mutual respect. Rather than worrying if there is someone else, I would suggest that you think carefully about whether you want to be with this guy. Look at the future here. Yes, you love him. But what if you want to get married and you're still breaking up? What if you want to have kids but he's still partying and taking drugs? Unless you have total respect for each other, and you really are committed, this just won't work. So my suggestion to you would be to seriously consider whether this is the time to end it and move on. Because let's face it, if he does get into the army, he's going to be away a lot. And if you can't trust him now, how will you in the future?
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