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writes: I have been in a relationship for almost 2 1/2 years. I asked her to marry me about 6 months ago she said "yes." After that, I thought we were going to live happily ever after. Now she tells me that she is confused, doesn't know what she wants her future to be, and to top it off she's not sure if I'm the one for her. I love her with all my heart and will do anything for her. I am going to give her the space that she is asking for. We put all of reservations in already for the wedding except for the officiant. Is there anything else I can do ?
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (6 May 2005):
 Not really, the ball is in her court and you giving her time and space is the right thing to do. She, I assume, is aware that you are doing this and aware that you aren't pressurising her which is good.After a while, perhaps it would be a good idea to discuss with her the reasons why she felt differently, what caused her uncertainty. Has anything changed in her life? Is she under more stress than normal? It would be a good idea to explore her reasons for her doubt. How does she see her future?Do give her time but allow her to be aware that you are waiting quietly in the wings and willing to talk whenever she wants. She knows that you love her so Im afraid all you can do is wait. Perhaps give yourself a limit on how long you wait and when the turning point is that you consider getting on with your life. But that time is up to you.I wish you well.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (6 May 2005):
I think you are right by honouring her space so she can think. After she has had a thought you do need to discuss this through with each other. Don't forget to tell her how you feel for her, the fact you want to live with her for the rest of your life and the fact that the wedding reservations have already been done.
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