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*ithe4ngel
writes:Is it worth verbal abuse if you get college payed for two years and a home..and help..everytime they do something to help me it gets counterbalanced by something cruel or snide.but i dont know the amount of money and such would set ne up to move out and be happier...asuming i can pass classes with all there crap..i dunno sometimes i real get along with my father then he just says one small thing about how if i wasnt lazy id understand and do it all myself.but i tried and didnt know how..i dunno whatever..things have gottwn neat im possibly attending the same college as a guy i really like through absolute chance.it makes me happy but its scary because i follow him around a lot and such...and its just odd how one of the few seprate parts of my life and his now match...and it wasnt even subconcious its just the only college that has the degree im looking at.sorry im just confused and upset in a mild crush and this is my comfort..that and food yupp
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): You know alot of jobs now days pay for school and pay very well also.My daughter makes 18 an hour and will graduate debt free.Her job paid for school and supported herself with her own apt. and she even has a new car.She is totally independent and has never asked for money.My son also does the same.Look into large companies and maybe you can become independent and go to school on their dime.You will do better in school without all this added stress.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): Nothing is free. I think you would be better off paying for your own way through college via work/loans/scholarships, instead of by being a punching bad to the people you live with.
In my experience, people who pay their own way also get better grades, are more sure to graduate, and appreciate their educations more. They are the ones most likely to get hired in their field of study afterward because they have some character built already from the process of paying their own way. They act more like an adult than an entitled child. And no one wants to hire an entitled child.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): Look, I'm 20 and I've been (unintentionally) verbally and emotionally abused by my dad and brother, since I was 14. By intentionally, they meant to do it, but refused to accept that it counted as abuse and that they were causing serious damage.I wanted to move out (still do) but couldn't, and still can't afford to, so I'm sticking around for as long as I have to, until I can financially look after myself.That said, I'm helping out as much as possible to avoid conflict and show that I am grateful for their help because I am. They may be verbally abusive, which is wrong, but they don't have to pay after you become legally an adult, so you should still be grateful for it.Do as many chores as you can (boring, but good life skills), practice your English writing (and speaking, if you speak the way you've typed), so that you can get a job and start saving up to move out.
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