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writes:Okay, so I am one of those people who try all time not to catch feelings for people, because I know how it can hurt, but I can never see when its coming. Well, I have this friend on a social network, and I've never met her in Real Life, but I know, she is who she claims to be ( None of that watch out E-safety stuff to worry about)I have been talking to her for a few months now, and she's a few months younger than I am, but that doesn't matter, except I fell for her, and I am still falling. but I think she may have friendzoned me, I don't know her motives. She 'did' say it was easy to be attracted to me, but, what on earth could that mean?! To me, everything is perfect about her, she's so wonderful, and talented, and has an amazing singing voice, but me, Im not that impressive, and I fear, she might not find me interesting. I do everything I can think of for her, ( including staying up late and waking up incredibly early to talk to her, due to our time difference. and because of this, my family are starting to tell Im tired and are threatening to take all my devices so I can get a good night sleep, but that means I can't talk to her, and that would be agony) Anyway, I told her I love her, and she said the same back, but that's all... ever, oh and that she cared about me, but all friends care right? But Im scared if I do tell her, that I am really in love, that I'll frighten her away, and I would never forgive myself if that happened. I need her in my life, and I have known people on social network sites just randomly delete, and if she does that, I would honestly suffer depression, I love her more than I should, and the fact we can only talk, seems painful as well, but if she thinks Im 'just a friend' how will I cope. Help me I don't know what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (17 January 2015):
 ... maybe you should meet her first, before confessing your love for a person you only know in writing?I personally know some great writers. Like, girlfriends who I chat with online, since now we live further apart. And writing back and forth is great! But in person, talking is a much different situation. The fact of the matter is, while you know her well, you only know THIS SIDE of her well - the side of her in writing. Think of a resumé.Freelance Fashion ConsultantPersonal Financial ManagerInterior DesignerThat could be reflective of her actual professional life. Or, it could in fact mean:Sometimes My Friends Ask For My Opinion On Their OutfitsI Have A Bank Account, I Paid A Bill OnceMy Apartment Looks Fairly PresentableYou see? If that wasn't clear, another example - I am a much different person with my friends, than with my in-laws. Before you get all glassy eyed over this girl, please do yourself the favor and get to know her in person. Right now, she should stay as just a friend until you know her in real life. And maybe get that good nights sleep - sounds like a wise idea.Good luck, sweet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2015): You're idolizing her and placing her up on a pedestal. Her existence to you is more imaginary than real. Nobody's that perfect. You need to get out more and mingle.
What's wrong with being friend-zoned by a person you've never even met in-person? She has a more realistic perspective on things than you do. You can't be in-love with her. You're in-love with the idea of her. Apparently she's your first gay romance.
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