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writes: Me and my best friend met a group of lads about 2 months ago. within a week we all felt like we'd known eachother for years. I started seeing one of the lads and im so comfortable round him i feel like i could tell him any thing and he would never judge me. I left for holiday a week ago and ive still got a week left, everyone thinks im crazy as im so home sick but i miss him so much. I think im falling for him but im scared of getting hurt if i let him know how i feel but i want him to know what can i do im so confused.
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reader, confused.com +, writes (9 October 2006):
confused.com is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI realised this weekend that i had fallen for my lover big time. It was during a 2 hour conversation with him that i realised it. It made me feel even better that wen i told him i was falling for him he told me he loved me. I cant wait to get home and see him now, i haven't been this happy in years. Thanks to everyone who gave me there advice it really helped me think about things and helped me make the right decision.
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reader, kiran +, writes (6 October 2006):
ive done exactly the same thing if you read my question i asked, my advice is get it out sooner then later or you mite just miss your chance. and that hurts more so just be straight i wish i was now im in a rut and that feelings worser then him not knowing trust me, do wat your heart tells you and if youm that good mates something as silly as that wont mater to and you can get on with it, has he give you any indication?
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reader, Toria +, writes (1 October 2006):
 Telling someone how you feel about them is a sure way of knowing where you stand with someone, you say you think your falling for him I would just see how you are feeling when you get home and play everything is it comes, I wouldn't tell him how you feel until you know exactly how you feel as if you rush this and realise your feelings weren't what you thought you run the chance of hurting him.
Good luck :o)
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reader, confussed jane +, writes (1 October 2006):
i would tell him how u feel because you never know how he feels about you hun as long your 100% sure how you feel tell him.but should wait alittle longer i would about anouther month or two see if you two are still together then say how you feel.
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reader, camille  +, writes (1 October 2006):
 It's so easy to have intense feelings when you spend a long period of time with someone, especially one to one. When that's with someone of the opposite sex, it's even easier to confuse those feelings and assume them to be a crush. If you fancy him as well as get on so well, can you guess whether he fancies you? You didn't mention whether there's any flirting or clues to a mutual attraction. It's all very normal so don't worry, but as you haven't known him long, it may be too soon to say anything about how you feel if you don't know how he feels. Wait until you get home, continue getting to know him and then see what happens. It would be a shame to risk him freaking out or ending the friendship all because it's a bit soon. If there has been flirting and if you do think he likes you, how about throwing your arms round him when you get home saying "you miss me?' and if his reaction is not what you want, just laugh it off. At least then you'll have an idea how he feels.
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reader, Tine +, writes (1 October 2006):
 well i say tell him anyway, if you feel comfortable around him and have strong feelings for him then you'll never be able to know if you can take it that step further and find out how he really feels about you, if you don't speak up and let him know.
Think of it like this, everytime you meet someone and your feelings begin to get stronger for them, then you're always gonna be worrying about getting hurt and its this worryng that will prevent you from starting a proper relationship with these people therefore you'll let them slip through your fingers and let them go out with someone else.
This isnt what you want so i say take your chances.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (1 October 2006):
 Hey,
I would worry about this problem when you are sure how you feel about him. You say you Think you're falling for him. Let this whole thing play out a bit longer, give it a chance to unfold. When you are sure how you feel, think about telling him and taking the next step. Cross that bridge when you come to it.
Hope this helped,
Phoebe xxxxx
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