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writes:i really love my boyfriend.. he wants to have sex.. but i' m scared... even with protection... but i dont want to say that i am scared or that i dont want to do it .. because i am ready to do anything for him.. I dont know what to do right now. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): I agree the fact you are unsure answers it for you don't have sex because he wants to have it because you are both ready to and do it when you have finally found love. It's something that should be kept special.
If you're not ready then you shouldn't do it and hunii to be honest if after you tell him you're not ready and afterwards he doesn't accept it and still is pushing he isn't worth it.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): The fact that you are not sure of what to do shows you are not yet ready to have sex with your boyfriend. No doubt you'll feel nervous if/when the time comes, but feeling scared and unsure means that, that time is NOT now. And this is what you need to tell him. Tell him how you feel and that you are simply not ready yet (if that is indeed how you feel). He should understand. That is not to say he will like your decission but you cant do it 'for him'. it has to be for yourself too and not because he wants you to do it.
AND tell him quick. the longer you put off having the convo with him, the harder it will get! once you get started telling him, you'll probs realise that there was nothing to worry about in the first place.
good luck =)
S x
(p.s. also, you dont state your age specificaly, but are you legal? this could be a nother way to spin the topic 'not until we are legal')
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): sweetheart,don't do anything you'll regret later on.you're young,and you're simply not ready to have sex with your boyfriend.i think you should talk to him,tell him how you feel.tell him that you're not ready.i'm sure that he'll understand and wait.if not,there's a very good chance he's using you for sex,in which case you should leave him and find someone who's willing to wait for you instead.
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reader, ConfusedDazed  +, writes (2 May 2009):
 Wait until you feel 100% safe and ready.
I know you love him so just explain how your feeling to him.
If he doesn't understand hes not a very good boyfriend. xx
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