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writes:Hi I'm 14 and I started my period at 13 a few days after my birthday. I don't know how to tell my mum and I'm quite scared as for telling her so late. I'm scared for the questions she might ask me like how did o l keep this (secret). It was hard for me and I had to learn everything on my own. The main reason why I kept it a secret was because my oldest sister who is one year older than me hadn't had her period yet and I don't want to have it before her (she's one year older than me)Pls pls help me and reply I don't know what to do and how to tell her.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 November 2017):
 Honey, it's not your fault if you matured physically sooner than your sister ! It's not something you have a say about like, let's say, deciding , for some reason, to not get married , or to not graduate, before your older sister does.
Go tell your mom right away, and if she is surprised because you waited so long before telling her, explain her that it was for some sort of excessive delicacy toward your sister ( maybe you did not want she could feel bad for not having " arrived " first ?!) but in time you have realized it was a silly, pointless scruple.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 November 2017):
 Don't worry about keeping it a secret any longer, believe me your mother will understand, talk to her and tell her the truth and tell her why you felt like you couldn't tell anyone. We all mature at different ages so it doesn't matter that your sister is older. Talk to your mum, it will make it so much easier having someone to talk to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2017): I don't understand why you wouldn't want to tell your mum you got your period before your sister. Everybody has their own biological clock. This is nothing to be embarrassed about. Infact regular periods is a sign of a healthy reproductive system. Your mom was once 13 herself, I'm pretty sure she has been mentally preparing herself to deal with this situation either by bringing it up herself or to answer any questions you might have.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (3 November 2017):
 OP, you just have to tell her. We can't control when we start our periods and it isn't a race.
Let her help you find good products, keep hygienic, etc.
It's also worth learning about safe sex, now that you have your period, even if you don't feel ready for a few years (which is good!) - as people often have misconceptions about not getting pregnant on their period, STDs, etc. and schools rarely teach sex education well enough.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (3 November 2017):
 We don't get to chose WHEN we get our periods. Hitting puberty sooner than your sister is not something you can or should try and control.
Just tell your mom so you can GET the proper products and keep hygienic.
Honestly? I bet your sister is quite OK with not having gotten her period just yet.
If you have been using your mom's products... she knows. No need to fear anything, just tell her.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (3 November 2017):
 In my experience mothers are keen to help their daughters through this challenging time. I think she will be proud that you have come of age. It isn't your fault that your sister hasn't, but she will be close behind you.
Tell your mum everything. Let her help. You have nothing to fear. You can't stop nature.
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