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writes:heyy..okay so the problem is i dont really know if i actually still love my boyfriend...i dont think about him THAT much anymorei like spending time with other guys more than himi try to avoid seeing guys i know when i'm with him so they don't know he's actually my boyfriendbut....im scared of breaking up with him.what if i was gonna regret it later?what if i'm gonna start feeling lonely later?what if i start missing him again? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): Right on. You're both better off. I had you pegged all wrong. I apologize. Well, good luck with your next romantic adventure.
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reader, loulitta +, writes (16 July 2010):
loulitta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay so...i broke up with him.
till now...it is not so bad.I dont actually feel like something's missing because we lost that intense communication between us long time ago.
ofcourse it's kind of sad because we dated for 1 year but it's time to move on.
thank youu
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reader, Odds  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 His past injustices against you will not magically become better if you hurt him back. All it will do mean is that you have done something nasty. Do you really want to be the girl who has to hide what she does from her boyfriend?
If he's really so bad, break up with him. The drama can be exciting, I know, but if drama is your priority, you need to consider being single until you're a little older.
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reader, loulitta +, writes (16 July 2010):
loulitta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers guys...but look you should know that he already dumped me like 3 times before n he hurt me so many times before....plus,lately im not seeing him anymore thats why i dont feel like he's part of my life anymore and it's hard for him to see me becayse he lives far and his parents dont let him see me!!so it's not entirely my fault...it's just not working out anymore...right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Ok, before you make another move think about what you're saying. For one, you're being incredibly self centered here. You aren't considering anyone other than yourself. What you're doing is stringing your boyfriend along, treating him like garbage, feeling too embarrassed to let other people know he's with you. That's messed up. You are still young but already you have the WRONG attitude about relationships. People aren't here for you to use girl. And if you really like these other dudes that much then why don't you just dump your boyfriend & go for it. It's wrong of you and pretty screwed up to keep pretending you still like him. You don't. You're just too chicken to be straight up and you probably know that these guys aren't a sure thing. Secondly, if you do end up regretting dumping him and feel sad & bummed out by losing a good guy for a few nights with some bonehead jock or cool skater dude (or whatever your type)- that's the price you pay for being so selfish. If you have any kind of heart- you'll act like a woman & cut him lose & not drag him around until you find something better. That's just shameful behavior especailly since you didn't mention him doing anything wrong- just not keeping your interest. Your off to a bad start and you should really take the time to consider other people besides yourself. And maybe try to put yourself in his shoes. If your smart you'll see how screwed up your being. Good luck.
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reader, Odds +, writes (14 July 2010):
You're young, and have probably not been dating him for long.
What has happenend is that you have lost the initial rush of infatuation with him. Chemicals in your brain make new relationships literally addictive. Real love gets built up over time, and takes effort.
Either way, he does not deserve to have you seeing guys behind his back. What you are doing leads to cheating. Cheating cheapens you, and hurts him; either break up or stop hanging around other guys.
If you decide to break up, you will regret it, you will feel lonely, and you will begin to miss him. Most breakups are like that. None of those feelings means it was the wrong choice.
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