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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone!Could do with some advice please as I am scared for my marriage. I have been married for 2 years, together 6. I have a 6 month old and 2 step children and the lovely husband. Everyone dotes on my daughter and she is our everything. However my marriage is going through a bad patch and no matter how much I talk about it, my husband just doesn't listen. I want to be appreciated, but I have to make every single decision, save money, sort out every financial aspect of our lives, inc his pension, I have to clean, cook, sort out our children etc. If I have to ask my husband to do something, he just ignores my requests. He doesn't cuddle me anymore, he just goes to work and that's it. I am sick of having these conversations for it to end up no where. I just want some appreciation, but I don't get anything. If I ask and ask and ask, then get angry, all of a sudden I am having a go! I can't win. My husband is a really lovely person, he is a very hands on dad, but it's exhausting! I have recently lost 1 stone through exercise, and all I get is 'I don't notice cos I see you everyday'. I brought our house, last year he was made redundant, so we paid for him to go on a course which now he is working, but I have to help him do his job. My dad helps him, his mum helps him, but now when he comes home, he just sits on his phone and then goes to bed without even a kiss. Feel like crying but don't want to give up on my marriage.
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (12 June 2017):
 Have you tried getting other people who are close to him to influence him about your predicament? I get it that he pays not attention to you and that you tried getting that to him which failed, but try to get others to explain the situation and perhaps get them to have him change for one particular behavior, meaning I wouldn't drop a litany of stuff to change, but I would pick one important one and have influencers get him to change.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (12 June 2017):
 i am all for working things out , but the man you have talked about I can't see what makes him a the lovely husband, he is not able for his job , he does not help around the home , and he does not talk to you and even give you the odd kiss , what is his idea of romance and is ther a sex life or is it just him using your body for his pleasur , think it is best to cut him out of your life , I don't even think you would ever make it work with him even if you gave year seeing help ,
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2017): Tell him things need to change or he will have to leave tell him u need a date night. ..and he needs to be your husband as well as a dad to the kids.... if he doesn't change leave or just put up with it
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