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writes:hi im a lesbian woman and i just wanted some advice due to sex.i really do not like anything inside me, fingers anything and have never had sex before as im scared to. well not inside me anyway. why is this. nothing has ever happen bad to me at all in a sexual way.my g.friend wants to make love with me useing fingers but im scared to have anything inside me and cannot do this. shes ok with it but does ask now and again if i ever will.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (12 March 2012):
 Some people don't like penatration and that is normal, but being scared of it is not ideal.
Have you talked to your girlfriend about how the idea makes you feel, so she understands why you are not keen on this idea?
Trying to put a finger inside yourself at your own pace to see how you feel is a good idea if you feel you could do it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 have you ever put your own fingers inside your body?
I would try that first...
then you could do it with her holding you while you do it so you could learn to feel safe while with her...
just go slow and build up to it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): I don't think anyone can tell you what makes you so scared about having anything inside you. My suggestion is maybe go and see a counselor and work on trying to find out why, if you really want to find out why. I know myself that I was terrified of sex, but that was because of my childhood sexual abuse. In therapy for that, my counselor did help with my issues regarding sex, and even helped me learn to enjoy things that not only frightened but disgusted me as well. Maybe you could try that if you want to. Good Luck
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