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writes:Hi, please help...I met a guy in America and had to come back to the UK because my visa ran out, i met a guy there who was lovely, charming, generous and funny. He swept me off my feet and i've never felt so much like a lady. We didn't say too much when i left because we thought i'd be able to get back there in 4 weeks on a new visa. I found out last week i can't which is heartbreaking. He doesn't know yet. The thing is, he's a nice guy but he's never been very communicative, he's been texting multiple times a day whilst ive been away and emailing lots but he isn't one to offer any talk about feelings or asking when i'm coming back - it's all just been very general, flirty, nice, friendly chat. He cried when i left (VERY unlike him) and he says the odd thing that melts me but he's basically a closed book.My question is about giving up. I am hurt right now but it doesn't compare to how hurt i'd be if i just went over there on a 3mth temporary visa and hoped for him to defrost and tell me how he feels. I am very close to calling him and telling him i am falling in love with him but that i'm not sure an emotionally unavailable man is good for me (surprise surprise, i always attract this type of guy). I kind of think i should walk away whilst i still have a little strength left in me. Can someone help me with what to say to him by way of a goodbye to him? I'm struggling to know what to do or say.Thank you VERY much for reading my confusing message!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Thank you, i've done that and i'm waiting for the answer... xx
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 this is a tough one. the thing is u dont know this guy in his daily life.maybe he swept u off ur feet because he wanted to do everythin he could to make u happy knowin ur goin soon. u should not run away from ur feelings. instead of askin him how he feels,tell him how u feel. do it over skype. webcams on. then say u need to go somewhere. leave. give him time to think and give u an answer.then u will see what to do,according to his answer. good luck keep me posted
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