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writes:I would like to get another opinion on this. There is this girl i met Saturday and get her number. we texted a bit on sunday and i made her laugh a bit. We texted Monday night and she said she was gonna go to bed and to text her tomorrow with a smilie face. She ignored my first text tuesday so i waited a few hours and texted again saying "punk" and she said she lost her phone charger and was gonna get a new one and she would call me when she got it. she never did. did she lose interest or what? Its still tuesday and idk what else to do without acting clingy or pressuring her. what do you guys think i should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate the 2 responses so far, and you have a right to your opinion. I am not too immature trust me. I guess thats the thing with texting u cant tell the tone. I meant it as a joking way, not like "hey f**k you*. i didnt text anymore but i posted on her status and facebook and she replied that we are gonna have to hang soon so i have no idea really where to go with this.
Do girls ever text first if they are interested? and how often should i text a girl i like?
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reader, CarynLlewellyn +, writes (1 September 2010):
First, I'd like you to clarify why you'd text "punk" to someone you just met...could it be she thought that wasn't so funny? Did you call each other Punk during your first texting session? Forgive me as I'm much older than you & it could just be that's the way younger people relate.
However, I'd be turned off by this...also, if she doesn't get right back to you it could be she was indisposed ( in the shower, on the toilet, putting on makeup getting dressed etc.)
I think You're saying "punk" was a bit of a show of impatience & showed a lack of maturity. Again, I'm much older than you...but you should know that females look for good qualities in their "potential" mate and Immaturity...well,
This is a red flag for females...we have to be choosy with regards to whom we are going to let close to us.
I mean really, when it comes down to it, most of the time we are sizing you up to see if you'd be a good: friend, lover, life partner, parent to our children etc.
Immaturity is a major no no on the list of desired personality traits.
I'm not saying you're immature, I have no way of judging that from your short question and I'm also, old enough to be your mother. So, forgive me if it's just the way you tend to relate with each other...
The fact that it's still the same day that she said she had to get another charger, I think you're probably worrying about nothing.
Does she have to work? Study for School? or help out around the house where she is? All of these things could be holding her up from getting back to you right away.
Having said that, I hope you can relax & realize that you are not alone in this world, that you have many choices in front of you & that building a good friendship takes time.
A relationship built on Friendship is far more apt to be successful, than a speed dating type...as you will have had time to fully get to know each other.
Give her some space & do something to take your mind off of her. If you're just sitting there holding your breath so to speak, then you're putting yourself through needless agony.
If she's just busy, you won't have blown it by being overly anxious & if she's just playing you...then you won't be just sitting there holding your breath in the hopes she'll answer one of your numerous texts.
Peace to you Dear, I'm sure you have a lot going for you, or are at least moving your life in the right direction for you. Take Care.
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